Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Is it possible to survive middle school?



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We have been zooming through life lately. 
Just like everyone, right? 
Kaish continues to have a hard time with middle school.
And by 'hard time' I mean,
hates-it-with-a-passion-never-wants-to-go.
So, as a result, morning time at our house is nothing short of bliss.
And by 'bliss' I mean,
anxiety-stricken-panic-ensuing-distress.
But, just like everything in life, good and bad,
I know this shall soon pass.
And by 'soon' I mean,
78 more days.
Holy cow.
When I type it out that seems like a ridiculous number of days. 
Do you have any memories about middle school?
I don't remember liking it or disliking it. 
My Mom says I wasn't exactly a delight while I was in 7th and 8th grade.
I can't recall. 
I think she is probably mixing me up with my sister who definitely wasn't a delight during those years!
Wishing you a happy and drama free day. 
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36 comments:

Heather said...

Aww it's got to be so tough when they hate it!! I loved middle school (high school not so much). My daughter is also in middle school and seems to like it most of the time but it's still such a tough age to live through (for us and for them). Only 78 more days though, are you kidding? That's scary!
Hope you are both having a drama free day!!

seriouslysassymama.com said...

I enjoyed middle school because I was still little kid. Stuck right in the middle. Not too young, but not quite old enough.

Tracy P. said...

It's such a weird in-between time in life. I think it's just hard to find an identity there, especially knowing you're only there for three years. It's also a time when a lot of kids act older in a bad way, but not so much in a mature way yet. My kids do not love it. My mom always said there is nothing worse than an eighth grade girl. I hope something breaks loose for Kaish. Praying for him.

April said...

Middle school is very tough. I know that Abby had a hard time with it, as girls can be so harsh. Of course, high school brings its own set of challenges, but such is life. Just pray for Kaish (I will, too!). Every experience he's facing right now will only serve to make him stronger in the end.

Roger Owen Green said...

I'm convinced a K-8 is better for middle schoolers. They can be peers, and they're less in their own heads.
Anyway, that's what I had.

Emily S said...

I wasn't a fan of middle school, we moved and shortly after we moved, switched school systems, so I had to meet new people AGAIN...I was happy once I hit college :)

Kim Stevens said...

Awww, middle school can be hard! Is he involved in any sports, I find that helps to be on a team of some sort. Both my kids are in high school now, my daughter is graduating this spring :'(

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

:( I think Middle School can be so tough. So many changes. I hope the next 78 days fly right by. {I used to beg my mom to homeschool me}.

Tamar SB said...

The first half was so hard for me. Coming off being diagnosed with a learning disability that made middle school particularly tough and coupled with social ills - But I learned to find my niche and loved the last 2 yeras, It may be hard now, but tell him it gets better!! He will shine!!

Debby said...

I think it is the hardest age. I thibnk by the time they reach high school they are who they are going to be. Being involved is the best thing you can do. Also having him involved as well. It is hard. Hang in there and pray alot. (((((HUGS)))))

Dina Lettre said...

Oh, no. I have such fond memories of school, so this breaks my heart. Praying that things get much better for Kaish...and Mama. :)

Heather said...

I hated middle school with a passion. In fact I decided to teach middle school (have since switched career paths because I had my own children) becuase I wanted to make it a better experience. A friend once told me that the majority of children go through middle school trying to be like everyone else and then spend high school trying to become individuals. I suspect that if a child is not trying to be like everyone else middle school would be hard.

Fortunately my children like middle school. But I do contribute some of that to the fact that they have a very strong core group of friends from their involvement in a lot of team sports.

I am hoping you can mak it through the next 78 days without too much drama.

M said...

As a teacher it makes me sad to read your post. There has to be SOMETHING to make it easier! Sending hope and prayers Kaish's way :)

Pieni Lintu said...

Summer vacation comes soon...I hope.. ;) My boy is counting days.. :D They have next week winter sports holiday - hole week and that's great!

Pieni Lintu said...

*whole week

Leovi said...

Yes, these pictures are truly gorgeous, I like.

*Jess* said...

aw, man. I am sorry he's having such a rough time. Middle school is a tough time. Hard academics, higher expectations and responsibilities. Cliquey kids and hormones. I hope Kash gets through it okay and comes out on top!

Amy Cappelli said...

I could write you a book about our experiences with middle school. I have a 16 year old son in 11th grade and I can say that it does get better. Really. Having gone through it once before is the only thing that is helping me to keep it together for my 13 year old 8th grader (we still consider 8th grade middle school in our district. I know some places consider it junior high). We have just started therapy for my 13 year old to help him get over some of the anxiety involved. Though I must say that he is much much better from last year. 7th grade was horrible. I have a daughter in 5th right now and a three year old- so hopefully this experience with the boys will make me even wiser in helping them to navigate (though with girls, it's a whole different set of issues).I feel for you. Hang in there. If you ever want to trade stories, please feel free to private message me.

Wanda said...

When I was young, it wasn't "middle school" it was elementary K-6, and Jr. High 7-8, and High School 9-12.

Several of my grandkids, have struggled with it...and Jon is struggling right now, but he's a sweetheard and Hanging in there. He goes to a school that I think demands too much and too much homework..but I'm the GG not the parents...So I just love "m to death.

Gigi said...

I think different kids struggle at different times. I had no problem with middle school but struggled a bit with high school, but my son (NOW he tells me) had a harder time with middle school than high school. Just hug him tight, tell him you understand and that he's just got to get through it, as we all do with those difficult times.

Now go give him an extra hug for me.

Sharon said...

Hang in there! My two survived and both actually went on to grad school and are thriving. But yes, some days I wondered if we would make it. Just keep loving him, as it's obvious you do. That's the main thing. He knows you accept him, no matter what little things are going on any particular day. Your cat is gorgeous, by the way!

Skeller said...

ugh. I feel his pain. I HATED (yes, all caps) jr. high. I wasn't exactly fond of high school, either, but I really REALLY hated jr. high. I survived. Kaish will, too. Tho, maybe there's something different for him? Brainstorm & think way outside the box. Maybe a charter school? One with totally different curricula. Or a charter/online/cottage school type thingy? I'll keep praying for him!

Pumpkin Delight (Kimberly) said...

:( I'm so sorry, that makes me sad. If there's anything I can do to help or whatever, please let me know. School is not meant to be easy, but it shouldn't be panic/anxiety stricken either. It really shouldn't.

Jennifer Hoppins said...

I know it's not for everyone, but home education has been a wonderful lifestyle change for us. If you are even considering it a tiny bit, send me a message anytime.
I will pray for Kaishon. Middle school was incredibly socially miserable for me. The academic part was not very inspiring either.

Jennifer Hoppins said...

P.S. Becky, the photo of Kaish with the kitten reminds me that when I was in seventh grade, I considered my cat as my very best friend. On Halloween night the poor little thing got out and was killed by a car. I found it weeks later. That loss was my first big grieving experience.
Maybe Kaishon could find a volunteer opportunity somewhere like a shelter for unwanted pets? Or somewhere where his friendship and kind heart would be really needed and appreciated.

Rebecca said...

I hated middel school for myself and my kids. Glad it is all behind me.

Pride In Photos said...

Oh I feel your pain. I raised two daughters and I have always said, You couldn't pay me a million dollars to do middle school again☺ Keep the faith.

Scarlett said...

thank goodness, Keana loves to go to school and middle school has not been a problem at all unlike my boy who is in elementary, he hates it and we go through the same drama as you and kaishon every morning! he's counting the days until summer vacation : )

Anita Johnson said...

I liked K-8 better too, but that won't fix things for you today. It will get better. My kids seemed to do OK in Middle School, but High School was definitely a better experience for them. I am saying a prayer for Kaish right now.

Dee Wilcox said...

Oh, girl. I love the way you write, and I do not not look forward to those grumpy middle school mornings. Hugs to you, my friend.

Becca said...

Oh friend, these teenagers arent for the faint of heart are they? I know that I HATED middle school with a passion - so I will be praying for your sweet boy (and for you too!)

Busy Bee Suz said...

Middle school was tough.....but my first two years of high school were miserable. :( I was awkward and moved too many times to have good friends.
If he has one or two buddies, he will make it through.
You not being delightful??? I wouldn't believe it in a million years.
xo

patty said...

what a sweet kitty with kaishon. and i'm sure she's a blessing to him. :)

i think about kaishon a lot... since a post you did a while ago about middle school being tough. i'm getting ready to launch a blog designed to help parents and professionals nurture girls, but really, the ideas apply for boys, too. these are the hardest years. i'll keep praying for y'all...

xo

Katherine Vargas said...

i hated middle school i always was pick on i was always wishing for those years to go by fast.

photowannabe said...

I remember moving in the middle of 7th grade.
New house, new school but I at least knew a few people at the new school.
I went from being my own person to being sucked into my "friends" life and her being the leader...it was a hard, and good time of my life.
My teachers were nothing to write home about and they really didn't prepare me for High School.
I think both women should have retired years before I got there..Sigh.

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