Thursday, March 15, 2012

say a little prayer

 I love this house.
Isn't it pretty?
Every time we drive by I imagine living there.
Then I tell Kaish that I think we should move and he gets annoyed because he just loves his friends in our neighborhood.
 The same friends that tell him he isn't allowed to talk to them at school.
The same friends that are crazy mean sometimes...
I don't remember being like that when I was little.
Kaish is crazy mean right back which of course is awful also.
It is a bad cycle.
 I just want to make it known right now,
as we are on the cusp of puberty,
I am pretty sure I can not survive it.
Middle school is going to kill me.
Thank goodness for my camera store ; )

 This sign just made me laugh this week because, honestly, who are they going to ticket?
It's a little tiny store in a back alley and there is plenty of parking.
No one is going to get ticketed.
I think they need to take the sign down.
 Did you play with paper dolls when you were little?
I saw these in our local thrift store and thought they were so cute.
I almost bought them but then I remembered that I am *trying* to clear out the garage of extra treasures...
 I did not almost buy any glass ware, but guess what?
Almost all of our wedding china 
(and when I say China I mean Bed, Bath and Beyond's Special Kitchen in a box set for $49.99)
has chips or is broken.
That kind of makes me sad.
 At least our love remains strong.
Not strong enough that I could bring home these pretty little pictures though.
I sent Gary a picture to his phone of these little gems and he wrote back these words:
"What are those?"
So I said "Vintage art. We need it."
And he said, "Like a hole in the head."
 PhotoStory Friday
 Needless to say, I refrained from purchasing those beauties as well.
 Kaish is thinking about getting his hair cut again this Spring.
He said last night before falling asleep
"Maybe my friends will be nicer if I look more normal."
I am glad the lights were out so he couldn't see my tears.
Is there anything in all the world that hurts more than your child hurting?
If you are a pray-er, will you pray?
This week has had some excessively stressful days in it. 


44 comments:

Andrea said...

Prayers, friend. That comment from your son made my heart hurt a bit. They all just want to fit in and be liked don't they? This is my huge worry about my son starting school this fall...I don't want his heart to hurt and I know it will. Ugh...how do we survive motherhood with our hearts intact?
Praying.

Karin said...

I feel your pain. That comment, I can imagine it hurt indeed. Brought tears to my eyes too. You will be in my thoughts and I hope you will be able to reassure him that he is beautiful, special and worth only the best things in life.

xx

Kim Stevens said...

I'm sorry you've had a stressful week. I don't think there is anything harder than to see your child in pain or hurting. They all want to fit in, we all do.

I'll keep you in my prayers!

Gigi said...

Poor Kaish! Poor you! Sending extra prayers and thoughts your way.

April said...

You will survive the middle school years and Kaish will, too! They are some of the hardest years, but I've found that high school is no walk in the park, either. Just continue to be there for him and let him know how much he's loved. Prayers are being lifted up!

GLENDA CHILDERS said...

Parenting can keep you on your knees. I join you there on behalf of your son.

Fondly,
Glenda

Amy Cappelli said...

I completely feel your middle school pain. The only thing that is getting me through middle school with my 7th grader right now is knowing that I have a sophomore who survived and came out a much better, much stronger, more focused person in the end. And middle school didn't rob him of any of his charm, his compassion, empathy, kindness, humor. I am holding my breath as we push through the middle school years.

Last Friday my 7th grader who is very quiet, very introverted was attacked at lunch by an unsavory group of kids from his class. The incident happened so quickly that he hardly knew what was coming. They surrounded him and poured hot sauce on his head. It was a humiliating and painful experience. But, the outpouring of support he received from the larger student body outshone the awful behavior of that other sect of students. I have been wanting to write about the whole experience because there is so much more to say but it has my brain all muddled right now as it is still so fresh on my mind and on my heart.

I feel for you and for your son. We will be starting this all over again in September when my daughter begins middle school. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts- sending you best wishes for strength and endurance.

angie {the arthur clan} said...

Oh goodness Becky...reading what Kaishon said is making my heart hurt too. Prayers will definitely be lifted for both of you. ♥

derstine family said...

Mike always says i need certain things, "Like a hole in the head" to me!

Mark said...

Agreed. There is nothing that hurts more. Cyber-Hugs!
m.

Rachel @ A Cupcake for Moose said...

Oh my, I will certainly pray for you all. It is SO hard at his age. I remember my dad telling me time and time again that being normal was average and I needed to be unique and different. It's so hard to understand that as a middle/high school kiddo, though. I was always the weird one and never really fit in. Then, my junior year I reconnected with some awesome Christian ladies who I knew as a preschooler. We are still friends today! Praying Kaish can rise above the peer pressure and be his fantastic, one-of-a-kind gift from God. He is such a COOL little man. My heart aches for him, but I know God is going to do amazing things through his sweet spirit! Loving on you all through bloggy land. :)

-Rachel :)

Small Town Joy: said...

I will pray. Middle School has bent me further than I wanted to go. Raising kids is hard when they go to school.

I would have bought those paper dolls. I have a collection. Even some from Ukraine. Addict.

Praying for friends to shape up or ship out.

Mari said...

I'm so sorry to hear that Kaishon is still dealing with this. Why are kids so mean? I'm praying for him now!

Tracy P. said...

So sorry to hear that, Becky.

That house is so cute. Super cute! I can imagine why you want to move. Fresh starts are so appealing, and often just what we need. Praying that God will provide a fresh start, somehow, in a way that you can't miss.

I loved my paper dolls. ;-)

Hugs to you!

Busy Bee Suz said...

I don't know why kids are the way they are at that age....not always nice. It hurts my heart that Kaish thinks he needs to change FOR his friends....'cause real friends like you the way you are. And he is wonderful...as is that head of hair. Gosh, I love it so much....I'd be whipping it around like Donna Summer or Diana Ross!
Prayers for your sweet boy.

ps. I love that house too...and you need it, just like those vintage pictures!

Sarah Halstead said...

I will be praying. I am so sorry for everything he is going through. How sad. :*( Those middle school years are hard. Beautiful photos by the way.

Skeller said...

will pray. yes, I will. Jr. high years can be hard, awful, stressful (mine were. ick. blech. I feel Kaish's pain).

on a more light-hearted note. "Vintage". oy. Those boys pics hung in my brother's room when we were young. The girl counterparts hung in mine. They were Gerber pictures. Y'know, the send-in-x-number-of-Gerber-labels and we'll send you one picture kind of pictures. :-} I'm pretty sure my mom probably still has those stashed somewhere in some closet!!

Run DMT said...

Awww bless. Poor Kaishon. That breaks my heart. Middle school is such a tough age and I dread it too. Peer pressure is just awful. Tell him he should cut his hair because he wants to change his look to please himself, not anyone else. In the meantime, I'll send prayers your way. (((HUGS)))

mindy said...

as a parent, I dont think there is anything more difficult than seeing your child in pain. I will certainly add Kaish & you to my prayers...hang in there, friend! have a great day tomorrow :)

angie said...

I love that house. Moving when kids are about Kaishons age though is BIG business. Grace actually CRIES when we talk about moving. She would be devastated so I know what a big deal this is. LOVE you pictures and your ability to walk past some good deals. :)

Formerly known as Frau said...

Oh Becky my heart is aching for you and Kaish! As a Mom I know how you are hurting...kids are mean and you should never have to change for your real friends! I hope things settle down and as the days are longer and more play is about them they become kinder. Praying just the same ! ((hugs))

Farmgirl Paints said...

Oh girl it hurts so bad to see your kids hurt. I'm so sorry. Every time I think of you and Kaish I pray. Btw your Gary sounds like my honey...he would say exactly the same thing.

Mom Taxi Julie said...

Kids are so mean. I'm finding that the teachers aren't much better. I'm starting to think about changing schools for my son. He's only in 3rd grade and this school goes up to 8th grade. The school is really small so he will go through each grade with the same 20 kids.

Deb Medina said...

Praying for strength and courage for Kaishon and you. Middle school and high school isn't always easy, but hopefully it won't always be hard either. God will answer these prayers that are being lifted up for you, of that I am sure.

Anita Johnson said...

I am awake and cannot sleep, so I have wandered to the computer and happened upon your post. And I would be honored to pray for you and Kaish...right now, looking at your sweet photos.
We were fortunate to live through the middle school days without too much heartache, but know others who struggled daily.I will also pray for you, with your tender mother's heart, asking God to help you help Kaish break the cycle of cruel behavior. Hugs to you...

jlo said...

There is nothing worse than mean kids. Bella hasn't really found a good friend this year that she connects with either. It kills me. I hate that Kaish wants to change his hair because of what his friends say/ do. *sigh* We'll all have to get through this pre-teen stuff together. xoxoxo

Jim said...

Kaish is very fortunate to have you and Gary to support him through these next few years. I am sure he is as resilient as other kids and will survive. But I do understand your worry....I would be a wreck! I never had the pleasure of having my own kids.
Now to your hubby! I agree that those pictures were wonderful! And I would have bought them....if I asked my hubby what he thought, he would have said the same as Gary! Husbands!!!

Martha in PA said...

Is that house on the corner of Orvilla and Welsh Rd? It looks like one there that I have always loved too!
Kids can be so mean. We had a year like that in FL. It broke my heart (and my bank keeping her busy every minute she was not in school!) Thankfully Tara has become confident enough to not let it bother her if one of her friends "turns" on her, she realizes girls (and guys) can be just plain mean... she jokes sometimes that she has no friends. She does, but not ones that she wants to be with all the time.

Christina said...

Protection for his heart
Strength for his mama's heart
Change for the others' hearts
Lord, hear our prayers.

Angela@the crazyness that is me said...

Oh that house is so super cute. Praying for you and your sweet family

Jenny @ flutterbyechronicles said...

I will be praying for him. We have the same issue with some neighbor kids. They are my sons best friend after school and on the weekends but barely speak to him at school.

CiCi said...

I sure don't remember kids being unkind like this when I was young. It hurts me to hear about this. So sorry Kaish is going through this anxiety instead of being free and easy and young.

Cindy said...

I don't know if puberty is harder on the kids or the parents. It'll be hard, but you'll get through it. I'll be praying for you. And Kaishon.

I love those vintage prints! I have the full set of the girls, but didn't know those pictures of the boys existed!

Jessica said...

love that house!!

Caseybumpinalong said...

Puberty IS hard, but I can already see a light at the end of the tunnel with my son, so it doesn't last forever. Sending prayers that middle school will be more fun and encouraging than all of you expect. Hugs!

April said...

Oh, the heartbreak. So scared of the teenage years... what I wouldn't give to save the kids from the hurt of puberty, even if it meant taking it all on myself. All we can do is hope they come out the other end with strength and love.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Tell Kashion that your blog friends have his back and he looks VERY normal to us.... even in the really, really rough middle school years.

I used to love playing with paper dolls when I was a little girl. I'd wait for my grandma's "McCall's" magazine to arrive. It always had paper dolls in it. Thanks for the great memory.

And hang in there Mama dear. We have your back too.

xo jj

Comeca Jones said...

Im praying for Kash...

photowannabe said...

Oh the pain of our kids growing up.
Sorry to say it still hurts when the kids hurt when they are 38 and 43.
Loved my paper dolls and still have a whole box of them up in my closet.
those pictures are great. I have the whole set. there are two girls too. One a red head and one a sweet brunette. They were a send away from Northern Tissue Co.
Prayers for all of you and wisdom for the coming days.

Amy said...

Oh, I love that house! I have one as well . . . it's actually right down the street from where I live, but the neighborhoods are night and day. So yes, I'll send up a prayer . . . for a home, for wisdom (and patience), and maybe an unexpected treasure or two!

t@emmons-blessings said...

Prayers. Always. Made me tear up. I dvr'd Lady Gaga and her interview with Oprah on Sunday. I watched it last night. I didn't get her until I learned what she is all about. Born. This. Way. and never having to conform to others expectations. Here is the link to the foundation. http://bornthiswayfoundation.org/
Empowering Kaishon to be who he wants to be.

My heart hurts for you. He is a beautiful soul, and no one should make him want to change.

xoxo

be blessed

t

Maddy said...

This makes me so sad, especially after meeting Kaish in person and seeing what a sweet kid he is. I will continue to pray for him. This age is hard and it just gets harder :o/

Rachel said...

That boy of yours.

I love his hair because it is HIM. I love his personality because it is HIM. And if Mr. Fun Personality wants to cut his hair (or grow it 18 feet and color it purple), it would be marvelous with me if he likes it.

Heart hurting for you and for him. And you and I know that these things too shall pass. Yet it seems so big and so important right now.

I think we should all live in your darling brick house and be nice to each other :)

Cake Poppin' Mama said...

Praying for him! I wish he didn't care so much about what others thought of him. I always did, and still do. It's not a great mindset to be living in :(