Wednesday, August 17, 2011

"You is kind. You is smart. You is important." Aibileen

I finally bought The Help by Kathryn Stockett on Saturday night at 10 PM. Then I came home and read and read and read until almost 3 AM. Have you read it? It is so good. 

If you haven't, run, don't walk, to a bookstore and get it. 
Or, if you live in the 21st century, 
you can just download it to your ereader.
{I don't live there yet...}
I didn't want The Help to end. 
I think everyone should read this book. 
It will make you think and laugh and cry.
And then think some more.
One thing I have been pondering is how I treat people. 
Every single person should be treated with the utmost respect. 
Kindness towards others is vital. 
I should treat the beggar in the streets 
as well as the CEO of the company where I work. 
I know that I haven't been doing that lately. 
I haven't been showing as much compassion as I should. 
This book helped me see that. 
I want to make a change.

My very favorite part of the book is about Abileen.
Abileen works for a family.
The way she loves their little girl is just beautiful. 
 Aibileen tells Mae Mobley every day:
'You is kind. You is smart. You is important.'
The little girl's Mama is not enchanted with her child 
because she is not the most beautiful thing. 
 Abileen loves the little girl.
She loves the little girl just the way she is.

You is kind.
You is smart.
You is important.

Remember that always.

I am going to have Kaishon read The Help
I think he will enjoy it. 
I think it will be eye opening and perhaps heart breaking. 
I think it will help Kaishon to be kinder. 
Showing more kindness can never be a bad thing, right?



63 comments:

June Freaking Cleaver said...

I loved the book, and look forward to seeing the movie.

I always tell my son, "An unmet kindness is never wasted" - so be kind anyway, even if the other person doesn't reciprocate.

What a world this would be if we all felt that we were good and important and kind!

Kimberly said...

I'm going to come out and admit that I disliked this book. I think Stockett came across as an insensitive and lacking writer, and while there were some good parts in this novel, the majority of it seemed to me both cliche and stereotypical.

That being said, I will share a non-fiction piece that I DO love: http://www.beforebarack.com/2011/07/28/sniffing-dirty-laundry-a-true-story-from-%E2%80%9Cthe-help%E2%80%99s%E2%80%9D-daughter/. I hope you'll read it with an open mind. And I hope I haven't offended you by challenging your opinion of The Help.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I read the book over a year ago and came away with mixed emotions. In real life, my grandmother was one of the "help" and they weren't treated with respect or with graciousness. It's hard to think that somehow the point was made into a feel good sorta thing when for most Black women, it was all they had to make a living off of, including, taking in laundry.

Don't get me wrong, it was well written but I still struggled with the realness of the storyline.

Leesha said...

Oh my goodness..I read that book awhile back and LOVED it. That line Aibileen repeats to Mae Mobley is one of the most touching parts of the story. I think your idea of reading it to Kaishon is wonderful one! I need to remember to read it to my girls when they are old enough.
*sigh*
Great books like this don't come a long very often..and though it brought to life how we need to treat people with more kindness, I couldn't help but really want to beat some of those characters up! whoops. ;)

Pumpkin Delight said...

I did like the book! A lot! I also liked the movie. It was very true to the book unlike most movies based on a book. That quote in the movie is touching! The little girl is adorable.

Pumpkin Delight said...

Have you read "The Invention of Hugo Cabret" to Kaish yet? That is an amazing story...in a different way than the help. My class LOVED it and so did I. Just and FYI!

Rachel @ A Cupcake for Moose said...

My mama always says, "You will never regret doing the right thing." I'm going to borrow her copy of The Help. She loved it, too. We could all use more compassion - I definitely need that reminder. Looking forward to this read.

Gigi said...

Haven't read it but have heard about it. And now I will be actively looking for it.

lifebythecreek said...

I haven't read it,but now I will. All I hear on FB is how my friends went to see the movie; I need to read the book first. And Becky, I think I need to buy you a new mirror, cause the one in which you peer obviously doesn't reflect the real you. You are the kindest, most compassionate person that I know, and you see beauty in so many places that the rest of us just overlook. You is kind. You is smart. You is important. And I love you.

Southern Gal said...

I'm a stickler about reading a book before seeing the movie. I received my copy from the library right before our beach trip. I will always remember sitting by the sea reading that novel. I took my daughter to see it with me. She hadn't read the book. And though she's not one to cry about movies, she cried during this one. An eyeopener for a child born in 1989. Yes, you describe it just right. It's about kindness to everyone. It's a good book to have Kaishon read.

Sharon said...

Ugh! I lost my first comment! You gave me what I need to finally buy this book. I have pondered it many times. Thank you. And speaking of acting kindly and books, M's Dr. read her a children's book the other day titled " How to Behave and Why." and it was perfect for kids AND adults. I went out and bought it and even had Gene read it that night. Everyone should follow it!

Team Lando said...

I love that book. So wonderful. A tearjerker and in a good way :) I love the affirmation Abaline gives, and I love the affirmation Skeeter gets.

Brian Miller said...

nice...have heard a lot of god things about the book...halping others...we need more of that these days...and will need more soon enough

Heather said...

I am currently reading the book and have been saddened by the backlash that I am seeing on the internet and news against the writer.

Okay so maybe the dialect isn't perfect and maybe some historical events have been downplayed, but people are totally missing the point of the heart of the book. The relationships between all the woman, that is what makes you think.
I can't wait to finish it!

Amy Cappelli said...

Beautiful post. Anything that reminds us to regard all people with care, compassion and respect- is a very good thing. My mother keeps telling me how wonderful the story is. I will be certain to borrow it from her when I am finished with the current book I am reading.

Janie Fox said...

I loved the book. I swear when Abilene left I nearly sobbed. That little Mae Mobley made my heart break. I saw the movie this seek and it too was great. I have thought about it all week. The Golden Rule really is golden. We are all children of God. Love your pics as always!!

brainella said...

Seriously amazing book. Every child needs an Aibileen in their life...hopefully it'll be their Mama. :)

Caseybumpinalong said...

You are already one of the kindest, most uplifting people I know, so if this book inspired you, it sounds like a must-read for me (me, who sometimes is maybe a little too self-absorbed). Thanks for sharing. Love your pics - you truly know how to find the beauty in everyone!

Mari said...

I absolutely loved the book and you are right - it really did make me think.
I think you are compassionate and wonderful before reading the book!

stephanie garcia said...

I am really looking forward to both the book and the movie (whenever they make it to Chile!)

Tracy P. said...

Wow, Becky!

1. I don't live there yet either. Will need to turn pages. So glad people are happy with the movie version.

2. I agree, you need a new mirror, Becky. BUT, there is that struggle for each of us--even if people would say of us that we are kind and compassionate, maybe ESPECIALLY if others would say we are--to be honest enough to look at ourselves and say, "I am kind and compassionate to people like this or this or this, but really, I have a disdain for people like THIS." So God bless you for your honesty, and may the blessing be in his renewing whatever place in your heart he exposed as you read.

3. These faces are some of the best, EVER! Love that last one of Kaishon ALMOST as much as the one in the rear view mirror. I hope you are watching for some contests to enter that one in. Makes me laugh every time I get to the bottom of your page.

Maddy said...

Isn't The Help such a wonderful little book?! I knew you would love it! And I agree with others, you're one of the kindest, most compassionate people I know! The rest of us have a lot of catching up to do :)

Kayce said...

I can't wait to read it! It's on my list of next to buys!

Formerly known as Frau said...

I loved the book and can't wait to see the movie! Kindness goes a long way!

Jennifer @ Studio JRU said...

I have heard so many good things about the book and movie... it is a must see/read for sure! A reminder of kindness is always a good thing. But from where I stand you don't need to change... you are so kind Becky! ♥

Mighty M said...

I didn't read the book that fast but it only took me a couple days. One of those books that I will always remember.

Anita Johnson said...

I read the book awhile back and saw the movie LAST NIGHT! Wonderful, OK, maybe everything isn't perfect about it, but it so clearly showed the love between the help and the children they raised as if their own. I'm with you, we need to treat others better. No wonder the Bible teaches us over and over, to love one another.

Sue said...

It was a great book, and so is the message you took from it!

=)

lori said...

thank you for reading and commenting on my post! i absolutely loved the help. definitely the best book i have EVER read. and i completely agree about aibleen's love for mae mobley. i havent seen the movie yet (hopefully soon!) but i saw a preview the other day and it made me so giddy. i just love this story. there is so much to be taken from it!

Mindy said...

Loved that book. in fact, I liked it som much I dont think I'm going to see the movie...I want to remember the story & message the way I envisioned in my head as I read it.

Angela said...

I just started listening to the audiobook today!! I'm not even an hour into it yet, and I'm hooked! Trying to figure out how I can take care of my 10 month all day while listening. Ha! We know that's not going to happen! You make me really look forward to the rest of the book!

Love your photos!

Mark said...

Man, I need me some Help. I don't care if they're black, white or Smurf blue. As long as they do toilets, they're alright by me. m.

Julie said...

i loved that book and I am hoping that the movie will come to Hungary!

GLENDA CHILDERS said...

I am working hard on my "to do list" this week, as I plan to start reading on Friday night . . . I already know I won't be able to put it down.

Fondly,
Glenda

Kelly said...

What Kimberly said.

(But also what everyone else is saying about you. You're heart is the kindest I know.)

Erin said...

Loved the book and the movie! And I agree, it made me think about the way I treat people too. After I read the book I grabbed my daughter and told her how wonderful she is and how much I loved her.

Laura said...

I really enjoyed reading the book, it was enlightening and really does make you think about your interactions with people. We are all so busy and so buried in our own lives that we would rather check our text messages than smile at someone in the street, it's sad, and such a disconnect.

Your pictures are absolutely beautiful by the way!

Farmgirl Paints said...

such a good book. i need a girlie to go to the movie with. honey says no!

Dina @ 4 Lettre Words said...

Such a good book, huh!?

Wonderful photos, my friend. There are some great expressions in there!

Bec said...

I love love loved that book. I recommend it to everyone. It's up there in my top favorites now. My husband knows that I love it so much he's volunteered to take me to the movie this weekend :)

emily wierenga said...

it's an amazing book, friend... i'm going to see the movie this month... i love your photos, and your heart. xo

Busy Bee Suz said...

This is a wonderful post...yes, we are all important.
I loved the book...but seeing (reading) all the racism just breaks my heart. I know it is still out there!
But reading this, my heart was rooting for the ladies who were the help; i just wanted to see them live the lives they deserved.
xo

Flower Patch Farmgirl said...

I am COVERED in goose bumps!! Love this post. And pics.

Jessica {Team Rasler} said...

Those pictures are lovely, and I definitely agree that more love and kindness and especially compassion can't go wrong. After reading so many posts about the controversy surrounding this book, I now feel like I really want to read it. So that I understand why people love and why others don't.

Bridget said...

I'm reading it now. It's great, I love it. My daughter read it too. She didn't really need to be a better kid, she's awesome, but I think it made her think too!

New Jersey Memories said...

I really want to read "The Help"! However, my stack of books to be read -- both physical books and Kindle books -- is very large.

Bless by Tone said...

I'm so happy you took the time to comment my blogpost - because i then found your blog - love the way you write. Tone

Susan said...

Wow...what incredible pictures!

The Help, I didn't read the book but saw the movie.

So many emotions were stirred during that 2 hours and 17 minutes.

I loved the courage that was shown, and the great love.

It made me sad to remember those days again, but very happy to know how much has changed.

Great post, as always!

TechnoBabe said...

It must have been going on forever that some people think they are truly on a higher level and more valuable and worthy than some other human beings. It is very difficult for me to be around people like that. The ignorance is asinine. Hubby and I have been discussing seeing the movie.

Sarah said...

These are gorgeous Becky.

Skeller said...

'tis a very good book, indeed. I very much enjoyed it when I read it. :-)

you pulled out one of the very nicest parts of it ...

Dianne - Bunny Trails said...

Beautiful post. I just started reading this book. I'm sure I'm going to love it. I think we all need that reminder that every single person was created in the image of GOD. I know I look at them differently when I think that way.

jlo said...

Best book ever...the movie was so good too. The ending where Abilene had to say good bye to Mae Mobley slayed me. Bawled like a baby!

Otto K. said...

that is a wonderful sentiment. I'll have to put that book on my reading list.

The Fischer Family said...

What a wonderful post! I absolutely loved the book and my girlfriends and I have a date next week to see the movie. I'm so excited! Those words by Abileen make me cry every time I read them. I hope I'll always make every child that comes in my path feel that way! Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your kind words! Have a blessed weekend!

Rachel said...

I cannot wait until the movie comes out captioned.

Those words are words that every soul needs to hear and feel.

(Yes, I admit that I broke down crying when my boss said "we like you here", this week.)

Ali C said...

I adored The Help too. Soooo good. Can't wait to see the movie. Thanks for this inspiring post and for stopping by my blog and your kind words.

Casey Freeland said...

My daughter read it while we were camping. She's 11 and a book fiend. My wife is reading it now. Then me. Looking forward to it.

And I have a hard time believing you don't live your life with compassion. It shows in your photography, lady.

Cheers,

Casey

Casey said...

I NEED to order this book tonight. I've heard so many wonderful things about it... Thanks for the reminder!!

Lovely pictures!!

Shey said...

"Every single person should be treated with the uttermost respect" <--- I love that quote, and I'm guilty of not always being kind and compassionate towards people depending on my mood, we are all creations of God and he said that the most important commandment is to love. I pray to God that he will give me a compassionate heart towards my students this year as many of them have a harsh life at home, one of my future students lost her mom this weekend, I don't know her yet but I can't stop thinking about her and my heart aches as I can merely imagine what it's like to lose your mother at such young age. I hope that Kaish has a great day at school, wish the the same for my son, that God blesses and watches them throughout their day and gives them kindness and love towards others. I'll be praying for them tonight. God bless you Becky!

Joelle said...

Can't wait to pick it up...I've heard great things

Maggie S. said...

I have been hearing great things about The Help. The last time I went for a popular book, I was sorely disappointed. I am nervous.

Maggie S. said...

I have been hearing great things about The Help. The last time I went for a popular book, I was sorely disappointed. I am nervous.