Tuesday, July 26, 2011

4 x 365


He could have never known how loud his world would get
that fateful day we met.

He is quiet. Very quiet.
Peaceful. Tranquil. Calm.

And I?
Am not.
Not quiet or peaceful or tranquil or calm.

He could have never known how much work a house would be.
He didn't go to college and live with anyone.
Just himself and his Dad in their peaceful & quiet house.
He liked the calm. The structure. The stability.


And here came Becky.
I threw all of that stuff he loves, right down the drain.
Hello house! Hello mortgage! Hello Kaishon!

And holy cow, hello to all the other children I acrue as well.

Lots and lots of children.
Lots and lots of loud.
Lots and lots of different.

I don't know what made him like me.
And then love me.
I don't know.
Really, I don't know.
I wonder sometimes if he made a mistake.

If he should have married a peaceful and quiet girl
that would have been happy to stay in Philly.
Who would not have wanted a house
or more babies
or random children roaming around day in and day out.
I wonder.

I can't tell you why he loves me,
but, I can tell you why I love him.
I love him for the quiet.
For the calm.
For the peaceful.

I love that every summer he says, 
'Beck, could you try not to spend all of your paycheck on the kids and their activities?'
and then, when I do, he says,
'That's ok. I will work more.'
and he does.


I love that he smiles and his eyes crinkle.
Even after he worked a 16 hour day his eyes are still crinkly.
He has the best smile.
Great big teeth.
Great big smile.
Great big heart.

I love his laugh.
I love that he barely ever gets mad at me.
Even when I have freakouts that totally destroy his quiet and calm.
Even when he is working in a building that was 112 degrees for 7 days in a row.
Even when I forget to buy him fishsticks.

He brings the quiet. I bring the chaos.
We merge in the middle.

4 years of merging.
4 years of learning.
4 years of love.

Happy Anniversary to my Gary.
Please know, sweet Gary of mine, that I do know,
absolutely every day, how incredibly blessed I am.

And thank you more than anything,
for loving my Kaish, like he is your own.




81 comments:

Brian Miller said...

big smiles.

happy anniversary and this makes a great present fo him...

Sonya@Beyond the Screen Door said...

Just beautiful! You, my dear, have a gift for words as well as photography! Happy Anniversary to you both.

Dishita said...

Congratulations. Belief is what drives you.

Jade @ Tasting Grace said...

Aww...my heart is simply melting! Happy Anniversary to you both! <3

Heidi said...

Lovely and honest. Happy Anniversary!

lifebythecreek said...

What a lucky man, to have YOU! Because at the end of the day/road/life... "calm, peaceful, quiet, uneventful" really don't quite cut it! Did you ever think that God might have been blessing GARY by putting you in his life? Because I think He did. Well, I think it goes both ways, and God is pretty amazing at how He puts the BIG picture together. I just know that when I look at the portrait that is YOU, I see incredible beauty, and God did good....
Happy Anniversary... and may God bless your journey for many, many more years! (love your new design, too....)

jlo said...

Awww...happy day to you! Love the new look too!

Mom2Isabel said...

What incredible words. You paint images with your words like you do with your camera. What a beautiful tribute.

Buckeroomama said...

Happy anniversary to you and Gary!

I love how you love...both of you.

keli [at] kidnapped by suburbia said...

this is beautiful.

and hello, new blog!!! wow!!! [see, this is why people need to use the Google "next" button, because i bet no one is even seeing this GORGEOUS new blog layout!]

Diana...aka...MeMe said...

Happy Anniversary! Love the new blog look~

Wanda said...

What a sweet tribute to your steady, calm and precious man.

You know, I had to smile because when I fell in love with my dearest, he was the ROCK, the one with deep convictions, bottom line...and I was the dizzy fluttering butterfly, in my gypsy skirts and bangles and beads (rather a hippy) but he fell, and I fell and it's differences that have kept us together for 50 years.

You are just beginning your journey...and different is GOOD!!!!

darcy said...

Absolutely love this post.

xo.

Darcy

Kimberly said...

Beautiful post. Happy anniversary!

Michelle R Photography said...

Probably the best anniversary post EVER!!! I love it!!! Happy Anniversary!!!

likeitsgolden said...

this was very very sweet. I knew my husband was the one after I saw him with my son. Their relationship warms my heart. Happy belated Anniversary

Pumpkin Delight said...

Happy anniversary!

Rachel said...

Your Mister sounds pretty incredible. You guys are an amazing match. Love this and Happy Anniversary!

Skeller said...

I do so like the beautiful words you use to honor the ones you love. Happy Anniversary to you and your man. I hope you get time this week to celebrate ...

Courtney Walsh said...

I love this post. It's seriously the sweetest post ever!

Drew said...

Happy Anniversary, my sweet friend. You are both lucky to have each other. :)

photowannabe said...

Sigh......
This is the most delicious anniversary I have ever read.
God put you together for His special purposes.
What a wonderful blend.

Angela@the crazyness that is me said...

Happy anniversary from a very snowy New Zealand! Beautiful post

Team Lando said...

beautiful! my husband is the calm one, too.

(and i like the new look!)

Mari said...

Happy Anniversary! This is a wonderful tribute. I think you are both pretty special!

Roger Owen Green said...

happy 1-2-3-4th anniversary.

ROG, ABC Wednesday team

Gigi said...

Awww, what a wonderful tribute to the love you share! Happy anniversary.

Tamar SB said...

Happy anniversary!! And I love the new blog design!!

Formerly known as Frau said...

Okay I wish I read this before leaving my FB message....he is a special guy and a busy one so you need to forgive the forget...but maybe give him a little crap! Happy Anniversary to two really special people! Much love for years and years to come!

Maddy said...

This is so beautiful, Becky!! There's a reason why they say that opposites attract! Wishing you many, many more years of happiness, calm and chaos together!

stephanie garcia said...

What a lovely anniversary post!

Angela Bowden said...

Absolutely BEAUTIFUL post! I think I must have read it 3 times! Love your blog :)

www.ramblingsfromtheanimalfarm.blogspot.com

My Photographic Eye by Irela said...

Happy Anniversary Becky. I LOVE LOVE this post. Have a beautiful wonderful day, life!!! Hugs

Farmgirl Paints said...

oh happy anniversary girlie! btw love the new look. very clean and simple. just beautiful.

Sadee Schilling said...

PRECIOUS! What a blessing. Happy anniversary!

Tricia ♥Charming Barn Hunter♥ said...

Wonderful captures - he just needed that someone (you) to spice up his life, huh?! =)

Tracy P. said...

That is fantastic! Happy anniversary to you and Gary.

Lovely new look over here! That photo of Kaish in the side view mirror is priceless!

mommatojoa said...

This is so sweet!

Busy Bee Suz said...

Was it your intention to make me cry today?
This is beautiful. You two make a beautiful match....why would he ever choose differently? His life would be boring/quiet without you and your chaos.
Just lovely.
Happy anniversary to you both.
xoxoxo

Rebecca said...

Super sweet! What a blessing you have. Happy anniversary!

Shooting Parrots said...

Great photos (as ever) and an even better story.

Bevy said...

Happy Happy Anniversary to you and you're man.

Beautifully written - Becky.

Knowing you is beautiful, too. ;)

Freckles & Dimples Photography said...

I love this post...congrats to you and Gary on your anniversary. I wish you many, many more!
M

Maria said...

What a beautiful post Becky. Happy Anniversary to the three of you. Wishing you much happiness.
Hugs,
Maria

In the Heart of Happy said...

This took my breath away...what a wonderful post. Hope you all have a great anniversary.

genderist said...

Happy anniversary!!

sophie...^5 said...

Wham Bam Thank you Mam!...you hit the JACKPOT!!!!!

Lisa said...

He's wonderful! and handsome and he reminds me of my Mark. Happy Happy 3rd anniversary friend. I wish you both 300 more anniversaries!

xoxo,

PS ~ Love the new look :)

toi said...

What a beautiful dedication ;). Happy anniversary to your Gary!

Lady, thanks for wishing me happy SITs day yesterday. I really appreciate that.

Chic Homeschool Mama said...

So beautifully written!

derstine family said...

Becky, this was so sweet <3 so beautiful I loved it :)

Sarah said...

merging!!! that is the perfect word to describe this gift of marriage.

congratulations xoxo

Dita said...

Good GAWD, Woman....must you have me balling here at my desk like this?

What an amazing post...by an amazing woman. Seriously? You SERIOUSLY have to ask why he stands in the center of the LIFE STORM that is YOU? Because that's where REAL Life happens...wherever you are.....YOU are the heart of it all....and, in turn, you steal everyone's hearts around you.

To hear these wonderful things about Gary...the way he loves you, Kaish and the life you have built together....just melts me.

Happy Anniversary and many, many decades more!

xoxoxo
Dita

PS
Awesome new blog look! WOW!

brainella said...

Happy Anniversary. Your husband sounds a LOT like my husband. :) Here's to 40 more!

Valeria said...

wow new look!!!

happy anniversary!!!! did he remember?? :)

Colleen said...

This really moved me. You write with so much love for him! Happy anniversary to you both and I wish you many, many more! xx

Maggie May said...

That was so lovely to read.
A very special man indeed!
So glad you met him!
Maggie X

Nuts in May

momoncaffeine said...

Beautiful!
Happy Belated (or is it?) Anniversary!

Kylie and Amber said...

Nothing wrong with a bit of crazy! Opposites attract I see that every day with my marriage, he is calm and I spend most days bounding around like a crazy person, he is practical and I am anything but! He is mathmatical to my arty farty side and I wouldn't want it any other way!

Congratulations on what sounds like 4 perfect fun and delicious years!

Love the look of your new blog and of course all your devine photos, it amazes me everyday how you find the energy to post you have many amazing talents Becky, thank you for sharing your life!

Kelly said...

That Gary is an example of how men, husbands, and fathers should be. Congratulations on finding him (and how could he not love you?)!

Anita Johnson said...

Congrats to you both. Time flies doesn't it? 30 years for me and Bruce. Crazy. And wonderful!

TechnoBabe said...

What a special, beautiful anniversary post. Best wishes to you and Gary and Kaish for many more years of love and family times. Your Gary sounds like a very loving man. You are both lucky to have each other. Happy Anniversary.

The Absence of Alternatives said...

Happy anniversary! And these words are so heartfelt. xxoo

Shelly said...

Happy Anniversary!

- dls - said...

happy anniversary - i LOVE, love your new blog makeover! :)

Mark said...

Sorry that I'm late on this one.
Happy Anniversary to the both of you. How Wonderful!
Your Friend, m.

Teachinfourth said...

This is a wonderful tribute...

Jim said...

I think one could call this a wonderful 'balance'. Congratulations to you both.

Jennifer said...

I am so glad to have your words today, Becky! A beautiful tribute to your marriage, all marriages.

jen@odbt said...

Amazing and beautiful post!!! Love it! Happy Happy Anniversary to you both. You're blessed to have each other.

Casey Freeland said...

You are lovely and he is lucky and that's all I have to say.

Cheers,

Casey

Essay Writing said...

Happy anniversary!Thanks for dropping by you have a great blog!!!

Alisha said...

beautiful post.

happy anniversary!

Mrs4444 said...

This is awesome. I'm happy for you both. Congratulations :)

MariaS said...

Absolutely beautiful post, beautiful poem and beautiful pictures! Congrats on your SITS day!!!!

Marie said...

That was beautiful! :)

Jenna said...

Wonderful post! You definitely love your man, dontcha? Happy SITS Day!

Lynsey said...

This post was so sweet! I could tell how much y'all love each other. Here's to many more years together!

Alethea said...

Absolutely beautiful tribute.

Congratulations on your SITS day!

Lynne Miller said...

Such an awesome post! Loved it!

Stopping by from SITS - congrats on your day!

Michelle G said...

Well..happy belated anniversary :) You're a very lucky woman! This is such a sweet post, makes me appreciate what I have as well. Thanks!