Thursday, March 31, 2011

Growing Baby Emma and Mean Photographers

Once there was a little girl named Emma.



She was totally leery of someone putting a big camera up in her face and snapping away.

Then she started playing.



The end.

*Kaish has recovered nicely from the incident this week. 
All is well in his fifth grade world. Thanks for caring and praying.


I was thinking tonight about something, and although I really never do this, I am coming back to this post and adding some additional information. I know you will be very excited since I always have so much wisdom to share. Word.


I remember when I first started getting into photography I was excited to see the pictures of a photographer on one of my friends blogs who lived in Clarks Summit, Pa.


I went to college in Clarks Summit and I basically thought it was one of the best places on the earth! So, imagine my DELIGHT to come across this photographer.


You know me, I left a lovely comment. I was nice : ) and chipper. 
 I told the girl that I LOVED her pictures, I LOVED Clarks Summit, I LOVED photography. 


Do you know what she did? 


She sent me a mean email back. She told me she didn't know who I was. She told me she thought I was competition. She told me she was erasing my comment.


I was truly hurt. 


Don't be like that. Really. Don't.


Be nice. Be kind. Learn from each other. Share. Help.


I never forgot that.


Oh, and since I am giving out valuable advice tonight...
I have been to a few blogs lately where it is obvious they are trying to sound like someone else when they post. 


Specifically, they are trying to sound like Jasmine Star or Kelle Hampton. STOP that this instant. Those girls are cool. But so are you. You are cooler than cool.


Be you and you will go far. 

40 comments:

Formerly known as Frau said...

What a beautiful girl!! I'm so happy Kaish is better...5th grade is tough! Have a wonderful day!!

Tracy P. said...

So glad to hear it. Precious little one!

Just Bits and Pieces said...

So happy that things are better in Kaishon's world! Beautiful sweetie!!! And what a beautiful song!

Amy said...

Glad to hear things are back to normal:) I love the little girl's lips, such a cute pucker pout:)

Jenny said...

What a fabulous post!! You know I started following your blog when you left a random comment on my blog last summer. So happy you did that because I really enjoy your posts. I also enjoy all the photography talk. I got my first "fancy" camera in December so I LOVE reading, learning and looking at what you post. Thanks!!

Abi said...

Hey! Thanks for your comment, and thanks for the advice! I needed that :)

redheadreverie said...

Thank you so much! Sometimes, after reading other people's posts I find it hard to find my voice or I'm embarrassed because my photos aren't good enough or my words aren't witty enough. Thank you for reminding me that it's cool to just be me. Smiles ...

Oh, and I'm SO glad that things are better in the fifth grade world. When I read that post my heart broke.

Have a WONDERFUL evening.

lifebythecreek said...

xoxox... being a momma can be absolutely breathtaking.. but it can also be totally heartbreaking. Praying that you always have so much of the first that it makes the second worth it. And I know that you will.. Kaish is one breathtaking young man. (and those pics are adorable, you mean old photographer you!)

Buckeroomama said...

You made me look up Kelle Hampton and now I'm hooked. Follower #11,945 --wow!

SO happy that everything is okay now in Kaish's world. It is utterly heartbreaking when we know they're hurting... so I'm glad you are smiling now, too. :)

Cecily R said...

Wiser words were never spoken.

So glad Kaishon has figured out how to right his fifth grade world. Since I'M breathing easier about that, I'm sure you're breathing even easier. :)

debi9kids said...

amen mama! We should all just be ourselves, just as God intended.

Glad things are better in 5th grade world :)

Skeller said...

love the song, love Emma's sweet face (I'll bet she quickly acclimated to you and your camera!), so glad all is well right now in 5th-grade-land, and so sorry to hear 'bout your long-ago experience with a fellow photog - the problem is all hers. your encouraging, thoughtful words are a GIFT. I cannot fathom throwing them back.

liveinthebadlands said...

Sound advice!
Cute little girl, great photos!

Gigi said...

How dare you leave a nice comment on your "competition's" blog! For goodness sake this isn't a competition - that is a person that needs to grow up and learn to play nice.

Beautiful baby! And I'm glad Kaish is in a better place at school.

t @ emmons-blessings said...

You're a doll. The lesson is good... there are mean people of all ages, who need love all the more. Amen to you being a better woman, passing on the love to all of us!

be blessed

t

Caseybumpinalong said...

Goodness those pictures are precious! Glad Kaishon is feeling better. Those moments can be so hard. I have a son with Asperger's Syndrome (Happy Autism Awareness Day!) and even as a homeschooler, he occasionally gets teased, and it hurts (him and me).

I can't imagine anyone replying meanly to a comment of yours - you are always so encouraging. Glad you didn't let that incident make you stop commenting, because you always make my day with your encouragement.

Oh, and I (guess I was living in the dark ages) didn't know about those 2 blogs you mentioned, but I went to visit and they are great (loved Kelle's post about blogging today). Thanks for sharing!

Maddy said...

Wow!! The insecurity of some folks never ceases to amaze me. I'm sure you said nothing but amazing things and the nerve of her! Well, forget her. It's like 5th grade all over again...geez!!

BTW - Thank you for talking to me last night!! The hubs literally dragged me out of the house mid phone call and into the restaurant. He's like a caveman when he's hungry :o/ Sorry about that! And thanks for talking me down that ledge. I spoke to them yesterday and set my price. We'll see if they ever call back :) If not, I'm still excited that a stranger actually likes what I do! Have a great weekend, Becky!! XOXO Thanks again!!

sherri lynn said...

emma is beautiful! and i agree with you - bloggers need to write in a way that demonstrates who THEY are, not who they want to kind of be like!

Busy Bee Suz said...

That little Emma is GORGEOUS.

I am so happy that Kaish is doing well...you know, he has such a wonderful and loving family, he KNOWS HIS WORTH. And kids that are not kind...are not worth his worry.
The best thing we can ever do for our children is let them be themselves....enjoy being kids and teaching them that THEY are valuable.
Who would want to sound like someone else??? Ok, I wish I sang like Cher, but I DON'T.

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

Sooo glad to hear Kaishon is alright! Emma is a beauty!
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Melinda said...

Kaishon is a strong kid with parents who LOVE and adore him. You have set a wonderful example for him, so it is not surprising to me how quickly he was able to overcome his hurt.

As for the photographer...I am shocked! Truly!! Why would someone be like that? We only live this life once - so why not reach out to others and help when help is needed and love when love seems lost. Life is too short to be hateful!

Sharon said...

But you my dear are the coolest of them all! That was really mean of that photographer. And I LOVE that first pictures. It screams SWEETNESS. Glad Kaish is happy again!

Charisma Moran said...

Thank you for the advice to mean photographers! Unfortunately there are definitely some of those out there and I have met a few in the past. There are so many talented and super sweet photogs as well. They inspire me and when I am asked to shoot something that I consider out of my league, I always make sure to pass their information on to inquiring minds. =)

Steph Owens said...

It is so important that you be you... there are so many photogs out there today and the only way to be the best you is to be you and not anyone else! What makes your work stand out~ what makes you love your clients and never forget to go one step further than just shooting. Get to know ppl, but also let them get to know you. Happy Shooting! ~ S

Kare said...

You are so very cool - I love that you share and comment and spread the photog love. Very cool.

Dina @ 4 Lettre Words said...

That is unbelievably shocking and sad. I can't even imagine someone doing that, and I'm so sorry it happened to you, B. (Tho, I'm quite sure you're definite competition for her!)

P.S. Thanks for those two links at the bottom. I've visited them both in the past, but it's been a while. They're two crazy talented gals!

Izzy, Emmy 'N Alexander said...

Adorable Emma! And I am glad things are back to the norm in the 5th grade.

As for the photographer, well, MEAN PEOPLE SUCK. Geez. Why do people have to be so nasty. I'll never understand.

April said...

I can't believe someone would be mean to YOU! That just isn't right and it really makes my feathers all ruffled. I tell this to my girls all the time..."Love the person God created you to be!":

Jim said...

There will always be those that will propose a challenge of some sort. Best to ignore , learn and move on.....like you certainly did Becky!
Ar you saying that Kaish is only in grade 5! I thought middle school!lol

Lolli said...

A friend of mine had something similar happen to her with a photographer. That just makes me mad. :(

Elena said...

I am so sorry........I know it can happen.

thekathrynwheel said...

Hi there. Just wanted to say thanks so much for visiting my blog and for leaving a comment - it means a lot :-) And the nice thing is, it brought me to your blog and I just LOVE your photos - stunning!

Susan said...

Love the song. Great advice.

YOU ROCK!!!!

Love you♥

PS and I'm so happy about your son. It's a good day.

beachy keen girl said...

Oh, she is DARLING! :)

Also, I love the advice. I think it's hard when people see a particular blogger get a lot of followers not to feel like they should copy them. But really, you are uniquely you...no one else is just like you...so you should do your blog a favor and do the same thing. (Not saying you, just in general :)). Great reminder.

P.S. Thanks for stopping by my blog. It's great "meeting" you.

Joanna Polling said...

Thank you so much for your nice comment on my blog - you seem like such a nice person. Glad your son is feeling better!

Jen said...

These are beautiful pictures, but I love your 2nd to last line. What encouragement you give to people!

Chris said...

Emma is sure a doll!

As far as photographers go, I have a hard time stomaching professional photographers -- they're so territorial. The world is a great big, beautiful place, and there's room enough or all of us.

- dls - said...

what an adorable little girl. :)

you are so super nice - sad situation when someone responds in a negative manner. :(

Jennifer Bowen said...

I've known you since the beginning of I Heart Faces, Rebeckah! You are one amazing person. I can't begin to see how anybody could just hurt you like that. There was nothing bad or derogatory in your comment to that photographer. Her response was truly inappropriate and rude. Her loss!

Thank you for inspiring me to get back to blogging! YOU are cooler than cool. =)

Rachel said...

That baby is BEAUTIFUL -- and I can't believe someone responded like that to you. UNBELIEVABLE.