Tuesday, March 29, 2011

bad days, sad days

     To tell you the truth,
I wanted a kid that played football.
A kid that had lots of friends.
A kid that was popular.
A kid that was smart.patrick 5
And Kaish?
He hates football.
He does have lots of friends…
but lately he has been having a hard time with them.
Specifically the female ones : (
I can’t tell if he is popular or not.
At his school dance it seemed like everyone liked him.
Who knows though?wednesday 3
I am not at recess.
I am not on the bus.
I am not certain of his standing among his peers.
He is super smart.
Math gives him some issues though.
He would tell you he is not smart in math.
Today someone called him ‘fro tits’
When I came home from work (1 hour later than normal)
he was laying on the driveway reading a book.
He looked sad.regina 7
I could tell something was the matter.
He told me about his horrible, rotten, very bad day.
He told me about ‘fro tits.’
My heart is broken.   
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Were you cool in school?
Will you keep my baby in your prayers?
I hate when he is hurting.

98 comments:

Mighty M said...

Oh this breaks my heart. Kaishon is perfect, just lovely. It is awful how mean some kids can be...just to be mean. :( I will definitely keep him in my prayers.

mommatojoa said...

Poor poor guy.
Some kids are so cruel.

I was not popular and I was made fun of in school as well.

I will keep him in my prayers

Phyllis said...

You betcha. It is why I homeschool.

Comeca Jones said...

Kids can be so cruel. I am gonna keep him in my prayers as well.

Bec said...

I was definitely not popular in school. But, neither were my friends. All the popular kids are married to each other and live in our hometown. A lot of them got pregnant right after high school and are struggling single moms. Me and my friends? We live all over the world (literally) doing some pretty amazing things. Popularity isn't all that it's cracked up to be. As long as your kid is loved and has a good group of friends? He's a winner.

M said...

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh, that makes me sad! Kids are so cruel...sometimes I feel sad for things I didn't do to stick up for others when they were being teased...I wasn't popular but I wasn't unpopular either....I didn't know how to stand up for my self or others....took a long time...but I try to my students the right thing to do...and hope it's right :)

Prayers from CA

Diana...aka...MeMe said...

Oh Becky... it is so sad isn't when our children feel hurt by cruel things said to them. I was NOT cool in school. I was called Mc Goo Goo eyes... one eye turned in and my last name was McDougal. I was sad too. Everyone is sad in school at one time or another. Tell Kaish to hang with his true friends~ spend time with those who are kind to others. Those are the best friends. I saw a sign recently that said...

Speak KIND words... Hear KIND echoes.

Those who say mean things probably never hear any nice things... how sad for them too!

Love to your sweet son... and to you!

Kristina P. said...

The thing about bullying is that it breaks kid's spirits. I was bullied a lot in junior high. I was overweight, had glasses, really bad acne, you name it. It is so hard to brush those things off.

My heart goes out to him.

Busy Bee Suz said...

Your sweet boy deserves much better....he is learning early on that not everyone is nice and kind.
I was picked on...I was never popular. He has love and friends at home...he will be ok. Promise.
Prayers and hugs for Kaish.

Tracy P. said...

Oh girlie, I was SO not cool in school. I was smart, but NOT cool. I felt as though I was on the outside looking in. Bethany feels as though she is on the outside looking in. I die a little inside when she tells me that. She is so much like her momma. But God has used my not-coolness in beautiful ways, and given me blessings I could never have imagined. This is not the world we were made for--we're not home yet. Prayers for Kaish and you! (and Romans 8:28 for you)

stephanie garcia said...

Hurting our kids = hurting us. I pray Kaish finds faithful friends who will speak words of affirmation rather than spite. :(

Mom of M&Ms said...

I hear ya!!! I have a kid that ws so cool in school!!! and in November, we moved to a new state and she is trying hard to fit in....and I have another kid who is SUPER smart, but could never fit the mold of her school and then we moved to another state.. and she has found her elimate, and hangs with teh cool kdis.

Motherhood is full of heart break.. but at least for me, I have been in both girls shooes.. and God gives me the words to help them heal... now if we could find a cure for all of our hearts out there walking around and growing up. I tis hard ot have your heart walk around outside your body.

We are praying !!!!!!!

Courtney K. said...

This breaks my heart. Kids are so cruel and so unrelentingly mean. Will most definitely keep your son [and you] in my prayers. I was most definitely NOT cool in school. I wasn't part of the "out" crowd, but definitely not part of the in one either. Just floated along somewhere in between.

Gigi said...

This definitely made my heart break. Kaish (and all kids) need to realize - school is not the be all and end all. School is rough for everyone (unfortunately) but once you get out? None of that matters anymore. Then it becomes about "who you are." And Kaish? Well, I have a feeling that is a boy who will go very far in life. Football or not. Because he has a beautiful heart.

Making It Work Mom said...

I worry about TweenStar too. Like you I don't really feel like I have a good understanding what her "social status" is. Right now she seems happy and seems to have lots of friends, but you can never be sure. I also know that children are cruel and her "popularity" could end tomorrow.
I feel for your Kaishon. I think as parents there is not much we can do except be there for them and give them what they need to succeed socially, whether it is confidence, lessons on how to interact, more interests, etc.
Good luck - he is such a handsome boy.

June Freaking Cleaver said...

I think most of us have been there - either we had the wrong hair, or the wrong clothes, or lived in the wrong part of town.

These arbitrary and temporary limits don't define us, unless we take them to heart and feel like we don't measure up.

As long as you have one good friend who likes you, just as you are, you can get through the preteen and teen stage.

And the 'popular' kids, and the bullies? They are insecure, too.

Let's hope that they soon learn that what's inside a person is what really matters.

TheHouseWifeRookie said...

This post made me sad :( He is so beautiful and I just hate how cutting words can be. The tongue has the power to build someone up so high and can just as quickly tear someone down. I was somewhere in the middle of the popularity spectrum, and I hope that the only "popularity" I had was because I was friendly. Chin up Kaishon!

Cecily R said...

Ohhhhh, that's a part of motherhood that is so hard! I know failure and not so good things happening is part of life, but I so want to protect my kids from ALL of it. If I could put them in a bubble, I swear I would.

Everything seems to roll off my son's back, but Gracie is another story. She takes everything personally. I SO feel for you on this one!

Kaishon is a GREAT kid--I can tell all the way from here. He's lucky to have a mom like you to help him through rough spots. I'll be thinking about you both.

Mari said...

I was one of the normal, middle of the road kids - not in the sporty or cheerleader group.
I'm so sorry that someone picked on Kaishon. I remember when my kids had days like that. I just wanted to yell at the kids that did that - and maybe yell at their Mom's too!
When someone messes with your kids, I think they mess even more with the Mom.
I'll pray for Kaish - and I'll pray for you too.
Love and hugs to both of you...

*Jess* said...

Kids can be so cruel :( I was called "Sasquatch with purple shoes" because I had hairy legs, even before puberty, and the boys made fun of them.

Roger Owen Green said...

you'd THINK all that racial crap would have gone away. I can relate...

ROG, ABC Wednesday team

Liz (Loving Mom 2 Boys) said...

OH Big HUGE gushy hugs for both you and Kashion.

I was not popular in school - I always had a hard time making friends and never really fit in - and some days were worse than others. {I've been thinking about this a lot lately...as my son will start K in the fall. I want for my son what you want for yours...most of all to be happy!!}

I am so sorry someone was so cruel to him today, oh how words can sting. I hope he never lets those kids take away his own style and his own self - from what you've shared he is a pretty amazing person already!!

debi9kids said...

(((HUGS)))
I am so sorry. There is nothing harder than when our kids are hurting.
Will be keeping you in my prayers.

Dumb Mom said...

Love seeing the way he has grown since my last visit. And, it's so hard to hear this when you are a kid or a mom to a kid who is struggling, but we all go through those days and it will get better. My heart breaks every time I have to hear about someone who hurt #1 and I just try to remind myself that we are making a strong, independent, beautiful boy who will one day be able to moon all of the kids who doubted his awesomeness. Or something?! Thanks for sharing your Wordful Wednesday with Angie and me!

Jade said...

Oh...poor Kaish! That really sucks. I kind of floated right in the middle in high school. Not popular, but generally liked enough to get by, and I liked it there. Like Bec said above, all the popular kids didn't go very far after high school and I remember that most of them did some not so cool things (drinking, smoking pot or dropping acid, loads of underage sex, etc.). A lot of the nonpopular kids did too, don't get me wrong, but I think the pressure is much higher at the top. I think it's more important and makes us happier to have good friends than many friends. And hopefully Kaish will know that such a mean-spirited, potentially racist remark says more about the person who said it than it does about him.

Anyway, I hope it passes soon and the day is just one little blip in a long string of fabulous ones!

Freckles & Dimples Photography said...

bullies suck and I will keep K in my prayers. you are such a supportive and loving mom..sometimes these things are out of our hands, particularly when our kids get older and outside influences get strong. you are there for him, and he knows it, and you and K will be A-OK in the end. sending you hugs...
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Sylvia K said...

Bullies suck indeed!! I was suddenly reminded of my miserable childhood and teenage years and those of my oldest daughter! You can be sure K will be in my thoughts and prayers. Do give him a big hug from me!! Much love to you both!

Sylvia
ABC Team

Tricia Nugen said...

Bullies Suck! Kaish is a beautiful souled child and I've watched him grow and you be right there by him because that's what a mom does. Kids can be so cruel.
I'll be thinking and praying for you guys.
xoxo

jen@odbt said...

HUGS to you and to Kaish. I definitely had those days. I wish I could be a fly on the wall at school. I worry too.

keli [at] kidnapped by suburbia said...

so many hugs to you and kaishon. kids are so cruel, and i already worry about the pre-teen years with my girls.

i try to remember that the hard times in my school years actually made me stronger. made me more self-confident. helped carve me into the adult that i am now.

i will be praying for kaishon and also for you, mama. xo

Grandma J said...

I was so not cool in school. I got in trouble for laughing alot.

I had friends and we didn't spend time trying to be cool so it never bothered us.

Seriously, NO.BODY!! nobody better not pick on my Kaishon...ever! Kids that call names are insecure and aren't cool. Kaishon is cool!!

~ Noelle said...

kids can be so mean!
I hate that...
sorry he is hurting...
yall are in my thoughts...
he is a cutie :)

Tumblewords: said...

School was not as much fun as it could have been - strange how people learn to be nasty earlier and earlier...He's adorable now and will be a fine young man.

Shey said...

Oh my this post almost made me cry, kids can be so cruel, when you write about Kaish I keep thinking "he's just like my son" kids tease him too, he's also very smart and hates playing sports and has a hard time making friends, he's not popular at all and kids can be so mean to him. I keep Kaish in my prayers, I don't know but are kids getting meaner these days? =S
God gave you the perfect son. =) Tell him he is amazing and I love his hair and his smile.

Matty said...

I'm on his level. I can relate.

I was mocked and teased at that age. For many years as a kid I wore a target. Perhaps that's why as an adult I was quiet and shy. I was never popular. Not even close.

Some things just never change. As long as there are kids, there will be bullies.

This too shall pass. Tomorrow is a new day.

Elaine A. said...

This is why I don't want my kids to get bigger and to out "into the world" but alas, they must and we just have to give them extra hugs and let them know that we love them just the way they are.

I was a chubby kid so I endured my fair share of insults but I feel like they made me stronger in the end...

He's got a wonderful Mother so I know he'll be fine.:) xoxo

Jackie said...

I'm not looking forward to the day when my babies...ok, toddlers...start to feel the sting of kids & teasing. He is amazing & has an amazing mom to navigate through the maze of growing up. Keeping you both in our prayers.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I know it doesn't help the hurt go away but those kids are jealous of Kaish because he is his own person, creating his own style. Growing up can be so tough!

Ray said...

How sad. :(
I'll pray for him.

Izzy, Emmy 'N Alexander said...

It's sad how hurtful kids can be. Wishing him strength through this tough time.

lifebythecreek said...

Oh man. That last pic is a contest winner pretty much ANYwhere. Kaish is gorgeous, and sweet, and awesomely wonderful. But at 11... a) there will BE some (a LOT) of girl/boy tension. It is what it is. Think back. ???? Yeah, you're welcome.
b) What in the HECK is "fro tits"??? I get the "fro" part... and I know what tits are.. but ???? Whaaaa???? Bless his heart, I think he and Adam would be best buds. So that means you need to move to Georgia asap. I will be waiting...

Rachel said...

GAH!

Your boy is a treasure inside and out. And I hate that someone made him feel that way.

No, I was never popular. It was hard to make friends if I couldn't understand what people were saying. And kids... well kids aren't known for being patient when someone takes 5 minutes to figure out the joke.

I am so sorry. Kaish - you are one-of-a-kind, precious and priceless and bought by your Jesus who loves you. Words hurt - and it sucks. But God is bigger than what feels so yucky now.

Just think, in 10 years... you are still gonna be the coolest guy, and they'll be asking if you want fries with that...

Ms. Burrito said...

Beautiful K!

Have a little tour of Korea, come by and see.

Heidi said...

Boy, oh boy this really touched me. Growing up is so tough; for parents too I'm learning. Your baby is in my prayers. This crappy day is over, let's see what tomorrow brings and go from there, kay?

Adrienne in Ohio said...

Sometimes kids can be so mean, so unfeeling. I'm not sure why they think taunting someone or cutting them down is okay. I'll never understand.

I have the same worries about my kids. I'm not sure Megan would even tell me if someone said anything mean to her. She opted not to go on the 8th grade trip this year because she was worried about who she'd room with. Which makes me wonder what happened on last year's trip with her roommates that she didn't tell me about.

I will definitely say a prayer for Kaish tonight. And for all our kids. I wish we could protect them from all the hurts.

Marla said...

Poor Kaish. I'll keep him in my prayers. Kids can be sooooo mean. :(

Marla @ www.blueskiesphotoblog.com

Wanda said...

I am so sorry Becky. Man, kids can be cruel. Sending an extra hug for you and your sweet little man.

FootPrints said...

that must be the most sickening feeling ever when you can't knock out the little kid talking smack! i already know i'm gonna have a hard time when my kids get to this stage.
good thing he has a wonderful mother that speaks life into him!

Wanda said...

All of my children are adults, and have children of their own. I remember some cruel things said to my youngest daughter about her weight in Junior Hi. I broke my heart...now I pray for my grandchildren as kids even seem crueler now that back then.

You and your precious K are in my heart and prayers. Loving you both big time today.

Kayce said...

Ugg the tortures of childhood are vicious and seem to worsen each year. Your sweet young man is in my prayers.

My son has had several very difficult years and was just tortured during 7th grade. There were many days that he wished he'd never experienced and wanted to only erase them from his memories. There are still days that are tough but he's grown to understand he's okay in his skin.

Today he looks back on those trials and uses them to remind himself and his friends to be a little nicer to the new kid, the challenged kid, the odd kid, the cool and the not so cool kids.

As for us mommas...it's hard and a major challenge for us to control our anger at those who hurt our babies and ensuring our incredible sons that they are simply AMAZING regardless of what others say! Your Kaishon IS incredible and I'm sure he'll use his own challenges to help others in his future. Hugs to you momma!

Jennifer Bowen said...

I despise kids who have nothing better to do than pick on others. Such cruelty! What do their parents teach them at home?!?

Kaishon is a wonderful, intelligent, loving boy, Rebeckah! He will rise above this. Someday, those kids who are teasing him now will beg him to give them a job because he will be a success and they will be nobodies. Honestly, I think these kids are just jealous of your son.

I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

Skeller said...

I was sooo not cool in school. And it felt ick. But I was loved well at home, and that made all the difference. I'll pray for Kaish ...

Cedar said...

That is not right. So hard. I wouldn't go back to the tween/teen years if you paid me. I was never popular but I was mostly ignored. I will pray for your son and you as he navigates these soul piercing years.

Christina (fivewalkers) said...

I'll pray, and for all those who feel as he did today. And for those who feel the need to make other kids hurt. This world is such a broken place...there are some people who are working hard to mend the things they can (this side of Heaven), and others who are busy with the work of causing pain. I'm so sorry he is going through these things...he is a kid I would love to know. Your pictures show them having so much fun. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could protect them from all the hurt? (Probably not in the long run, but for our mommy hearts...) I wasn't cool in school, and I suffer to this day because of it. A lot in my head. Sometimes I second guess my own experience, and think,"Did things really happen the way I thought they did?" because our perception of reality is so powerful, even if the reality is quite different. The name calling though? That is really awful. I pray that Kaishon knows who he is, Whose he is, who loves him, the name he has been given, and relies on the Name that is above all names for the strength to get him through each day. Blessings, and I hope tomorrow is much, much better.

Christina (fivewalkers) said...

I'll pray, and for all those who feel as he did today. And for those who feel the need to make other kids hurt. This world is such a broken place...there are some people who are working hard to mend the things they can (this side of Heaven), and others who are busy with the work of causing pain. I'm so sorry he is going through these things...he is a kid I would love to know. Your pictures show them having so much fun. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could protect them from all the hurt? (Probably not in the long run, but for our mommy hearts...) I wasn't cool in school, and I suffer to this day because of it. A lot in my head. Sometimes I second guess my own experience, and think,"Did things really happen the way I thought they did?" because our perception of reality is so powerful, even if the reality is quite different. The name calling though? That is really awful. I pray that Kaishon knows who he is, Whose he is, who loves him, the name he has been given, and relies on the Name that is above all names for the strength to get him through each day. Blessings, and I hope tomorrow is much, much better.

Christina (fivewalkers) said...

I'll pray, and for all those who feel as he did today. And for those who feel the need to make other kids hurt. This world is such a broken place...there are some people who are working hard to mend the things they can (this side of Heaven), and others who are busy with the work of causing pain. I'm so sorry he is going through these things...he is a kid I would love to know. Your pictures show them having so much fun. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could protect them from all the hurt? (Probably not in the long run, but for our mommy hearts...) I wasn't cool in school, and I suffer to this day because of it. A lot in my head. Sometimes I second guess my own experience, and think,"Did things really happen the way I thought they did?" because our perception of reality is so powerful, even if the reality is quite different. The name calling though? That is really awful. I pray that Kaishon knows who he is, Whose he is, who loves him, the name he has been given, and relies on the Name that is above all names for the strength to get him through each day. Blessings, and I hope tomorrow is much, much better.

Christina said...

I seriously do not know why my comment posted three times! I don't think what I had to say was THAT important. :)

Reader Wil said...

kaishon is a lovely goodlooking boy! He is having a very difficult time because he is growing up and a teener. I had a rotten time from the age of thirteen till eighteen. I was not popular. My daughters were not happy during their teenage time. It' s little comfort but it will pass. And it's a good thing that he talks about it with you. I feel for him and I am sorry for this beautiful boy, but he has two loving parents who showed him how to live and be great people. He is so lucky to have you. Talk to him and with him as much as possible. I am sure he will survive and turn out to be the best son you could imagine. God bless you!

gaelikaa said...

Oh, they're all different! And all special!

gaelikaa said...

Oh, they're all different! And all special!

Serline said...

Oh, those troublesome teenage years! Will keep him and those around him in prayer and hope that the phase passes quickly...

Sharon said...

I hated school. It was horrible! It breaks my heart to know your PERFECT boy is hurting. Every time I see his picture and read your words about him, I can't help but to think how awesome he is.

R Montalban said...

Oh, the poor scone. I was not popular at school, but then one day, things changed, I no longer wore my Milwaukee Brace, and then my plaster cast came off, and suddenly I was "interesting"! I had not changed in personality at all, I still was the same me but physically I had and interestingly whilst suddenly I was interesting to them, they were no longer interesting to me - my confidence had grown, my understanding of things had grown, more importantly, they couldn't say the mean things about my physicality anymore :-)

allison said...

awww, been there done that, and it seems even more difficult when you walk that road as their parent! definitely praying for his sweet heart, and for your wisdom and strength as you parent him through this difficult situation :)

brainella said...

I wasn't popular but I also wasn't unpopular. I just sort of floated along -- but that did not exclude me from ridicule and nastiness. I think that happens to us all our whole lives. We just get better at hiding that it hurts us.

I'm so sorry Kaishon is going through this. I am so sad that he's sad. Makes my heart hurt.

Maddy said...

Aww :( My heart hurts for Kaish too! Kids can be so mean. And I was never popular in school. I dreaded it most of the time. When I was about Kaish's age, a girl called me Mickey Mouse ears and I was so upset about it. I became obsessed with my ears. Looking back it's a bit silly and really is Mickey Mouse ears the best thing she could come up with?! But when you're that age and your school is your whole universe, it really crushes a kid. I'll pray for God to give Kaish strength to ignore all the "haters" in his school. He is surrounded by love in his life and that's all that matters.

Formerly known as Frau said...

My heart aches for you both...kids are cruel! I wasn't popular and my daughter isn't either but we had lots of friends because we treat people kindly ....what's the saying nice people finish last. I hope he has a better day tomorrow and you come home to that beautiful smile. ((Hugs))

Dina @ 4 Lettre Words said...

My heart hurts for him, B. This stuff makes me crazy...and Sam's had some trouble with friends, too. (I hate the bus b/c he sits alone most of the time.)

Saying a prayer that today is a great day for both of you. XO!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

name calling at our school is considered bullying. report it if it continues. I had to. i know the hurt you feel when your kid is hurting. Its a sick and helpless feeling. prayers for Kaishon and you Becky. ((hugs))
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Shuva Rahim said...

Your son reminds me of myself at that age. I wasn't popular, didn't have a ton of friends. And maybe I wasn't popular and never had a ton of friends. But the few friends I did have I cherished. I was popular with them. And over the course of the years, I had a few good friends in different aspects of my life. No, I'm not a boy and I'm certainly not a sporty girl. But those few friends were apparently enough for me. But your son is a good kid, he's smart... and sometimes it will take time to notice. Give him a hug for me, and time will be kinder to him. I promise.

April said...

Becky...there is nothing worse as a parent than when your child is hurting about something...and there's very little you can do. Just this past year, Abby had a set of 3 best friends. Then, out of nowhere, they all turned on her and didn't want to be friends with her, anymore. It hurt her so much and about killed me. I told her that maybe it wasn't part of God's plan for her to be friends with them, afterall. Thankfully, she's been able to move forward and form some close friendships with other people. I think the best thing you can do for Kaishon is simply to be there and allow him to talk about his feelings. Reassure him A LOT about how special he is and how much he's loved by so many. Growing up is never easy...he will be in my prayers. Why do kids have to be so cruel?

Buckeroomama said...

Oh, poor, sweet Kaish. But you know what? I am SO glad that he has a momma like you who cares and loves SO much.

Kids can be so cruel sometimes. Much as we'd like to, we can't fight every battle for our children. Sometimes all we could do is be there for them. *Big hugs to both you and Kaish!*

Anita Johnson said...

No, I wasn't popular, just average I guess. Isn't it a shame we label ourselves that way. We should all feel popular and smart and loved. My heart breaks for you both, but this too shall pass. I remember when my oldest got off the school bus, took two steps into our yard and collapsed in the culvert. Bad day at school. I still remember it 20 years later...he does not. I will certainly pray for you both...

Mommy Lisa said...

I don't remember a lot. I remember that I wanted certain people to like me, but I had nice friends.

The girls who were mean to me were a group of four "un-popular" girls. They never even spoke to me at school, even if I said Hi to them, but one of their mom's was friends with mine and I had to always go to her birthday party. The last time they were telling me that my friends were not REALLY my friends they were just "using me". I didn't understand it at ALL and I remember crying and wanting to go home, but the mother would not take me and called me a brat.

Nice, huh?

Just Bits and Pieces said...

My heart breaks for him too!!! I think he's beautiful.....and he's so lucky to have you too! I worry about my kids in the future....what will I do / say when they are picked on? I had times of both when I was younger. I moved away from a town and then back 3 years later and people who were my "friends" before I left were rude to me. Like walk by pretending they don't know me rude. But I made new friends. I hope he has a better day today....and all the tomorrows! Hugs to him!

t @ emmons-blessings said...

My heart wants to wrap itself around you and him. He's super lucky to have the mom he does! With your wisdom and love holding him tight, he will surely come out of this on top. (It makes my heart hurt for the child that said it, too. Diane said it best "Speak KIND words... Hear KIND echoes". Unfortunately not all kids get the lovin that you give Kaishon.) My prayer will be for you all. (He's SO damn handsome!!)

be blessed

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CJ said...

Aw :( Im sorry to hear about his bad day, makes me sad that kids can be so mean sometimes...hes a great kid, with a great mom - will be praying for you both!!

RR Mama said...

Kaish is absolutely perfect! He is just the way God wanted him to be. Kids can be so cruel. I hate to hear of the things kids do to one another. Life is hard enough with out adding that to it. He's a great kid!!! Show him all of the positive comments. It will do him good. I will be praying for you and for him.

Kelly said...

My heart just broke. Kaishon is an amazingly funny, sweet, and handsome boy. He is full of light. How dare some asshole kid try to take that away from him!

We're going through something similar at Javi's school where a group of girls like to tell Javi he's ugly. No cruel nickname, just ugly.

I could snap every last one of their necks. It's hard being a support and not going mama bear on all of them.

Pumpkin Delight said...

Arghhh! That kind of behavior from kids makes my heart hurt and frustrates me to no end. I got nuts when I hear about it happening in my own classroom. You've got a great kid.

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Ewa said...

it's the worst when you see your child sad, you just want to do everything that you can to stap that feeling..

Franchesca said...

This makes me so sad and makes me wonder what sort of kid my little boy will grow up to be. As a mommy I just want to protect him from those sorts of people, knowing I just can't. I certainly wasn't popular ;)

Praying for your baby boy. xo

Meryl said...

I am a mom and a school psychologist and I know and feel your pain. The best thing you can do is be there for him, show him support. He talks to you about it and that is great. Sometimes the only and best thing to do is just to listen, hug him and let him know that no matter what...you love him!

Let me know how it goes.
Meryl Jaffe, PhD
http://departingthetext.blogspot.com

Cindy said...

how sad:( what horrible words that comes out of little kids mouth. K is a handsome young man.
My hard goes out to you:)

Cindy said...

how sad:( what horrible words that comes out of little kids mouth. K is a handsome young man.
My hard goes out to you:)

MarshaMarshaMarsha said...

awww. that makes me sad too. i will definitely be praying for him and for you!

me? i was not popular in school. i was a nerd. but then again, i was friends with everyone but not in the "in" crowd. maybe you had to have more money or party a lot or something to be in that group. but i definitely don't feel like i lost out in life, even if i had a bit of angst and insecurity in the middle and high school years.

it took many years of being married to my encouraging, loving husband for me to gain self confidence in the social arena. maybe God gave me those young years to keep me humble? ;) either way, i learned from early on to not judge people by their looks, clothes, weight, or even smell! beauty is definitely in the heart and even those that seem callous and mean on the outside are probably hurting in some way on the inside. we all need one thing, Jesus Christ to fill the void in our hearts. only through His sacrifice on the Cross are we able to stand before our holy God. we all need the same thing, the same One. that is how we find our value. it took me a long time to learn that too.

until then, we cover our children in prayer and trust God to give much grace and mercy and wisdom for the journey!

ps i pray for good friends for one of my kids in particular... sometimes i learn more from his struggles than he does.

blue elephant photography said...

that's so plainly mean. i really don't get it when people are just mean really. bullies suck. K will be an awesome guy, just let him know that he is better than all this kids =)

Lori McPherson said...

Of course I will pray for your baby!

And, yes, I was cool once. And then I quit cheer-leading, quit my rude friends who were mean to everyone unlike them, and became a thespian who also twirled flags in the marching band. An artist who spun pottery and spent entire days hiding in the darkroom developing photos.

Don't get me wrong, I was still a ROCK STAR. I may have not had all the friends in the world but the ones I did have were amazing!

You tell Kaish to just keep being him and don't worry about what those mean kids say. They are just jealous of his fabulous hair because they know they could never ROCK it like he does!

Erika B said...

Oh, that is heartbreaking. Children can be so mean to each other. As a parent you don't ever want to to have bad days or feel sad like that. Big hugs to you both.

Erika B

Tisha said...

oh goodness my eyes are welling with tears at work. kids are so mean and thoughtless. kaish is perfect!

will be thinking about k today while he's at school and pray today is a good day. hugs to you both!

Domestic Diva said...

My oldest just started Kindergarten and we had issues with one boy (who picked on my son and the other 20 kids in the class too). It's so hard to hear the names kids call each other, but it's even harder to see what that does to a child.

TheChieftess said...

The most important part of this experience for your boy is how he recovers...your hugs and affirmations of his "wonderfulness" are the first step...life is tough and he will face many more blows to the ego...the lesson is to learn that words are just words, not truth...confidence starts in the home...

Liz said...

Poor Kaishon! Kids can be so cruel!

I was picked on a lot during the elementary/ middle school years because of what I lived in and that I wore glasses. I participated in a lot but never considered myself part of the in crowd. I had my own set of friends which were good to me. I believe that those years have made me who I am and were the spark that forced me to be something they never thought that I could be.

Kaishon is such a sweet child (I can tell!). He seems very kind and tenderhearted. That will get him far in life. I will pray for him!

Christy said...

That's just awful... Kids really are just so mean.

mamamia said...

This broke my heart. I am glad he has a good mom who listens to him. He is wonderful. I hope you list a gazillion reasons why to him as he goes to bed tonight! love you!

John Deere Mom said...

Ah! Kids are so mean. I hate that he had a bad day. It's so hard to look at the big picture and realize that in a few years, what these other kids think won't matter. Because right now it is all that matters. I hope his week improved.

Casey Freeland said...

Oh, Beck, I'm sorry. This is heartbreaking.

I was very NOT cool or popular for most of my childhood. There was a group of bullies who would regularly taunt me, hit me and laugh at me. And because I didn't get muscles until about 16 or so, there was literally nothing I could do.

I did recover though, and despite how hard it was, it probably helped me be a more compassionate person now.

It's so hard though. No easy answers. Hugs to your baby boy.

Cheers,

Casey

Teachinfourth said...

There were moments when I hated some of those kids when I was in school. Now that I'm a teacher, I don't tolerate that type of behavior from my students.