Monday, February 28, 2011

math woes

Kaish is having a very hard time in Math.valentines day 6            A very, very hard time.valentines day 5
It is a stressful end to his day.
I wish I could take away this thorn from his side.
Last night, before bed,
he was crying.balloon blowup 3
Crying because he thinks he is not as smart
as all of the other 5th graders.balloon blowup 4
I cried too.
I wrapped him in my arms and told him it is OK.
I just want him to do his best.
If an A is his best. Yipee.
If a D is his best. Yipee.balloon blowup 1
All I want is best.
And I told him that there will always be people that are smarter at math and at life.
Everywhere he goes.pumping balloons
There will be students at college that make the deans list-
and there will be students that scrape by with the skin of their teeth.sticker 1
There will be millionaires with big businesses that gross hundreds of thousands a day-Study 1 - black border (resized 150)
and there will be grocery store clerks that earn $7 an hour.valentines day
There will be real estate agents that sell mansions-
and real estate agents that sell trailers.valentines day 3
I don’t care what he does.
As long as it is his best.valentines day 2
I told him he is the greatest boy I know.
The greatest 11 year old kid on the planet earth.valentines day 4
I believe he can conquer math.
And I believe he can conquer the world {with kindness}
and then hugged him and sang him to sleep.valentines day 1
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63 comments:

ourlifeinaclick.blogspot.com said...

He's the luckiest kid in the world to have a mom like you!!! 5th grade math is HARD! We have tears some nights as well. He'll get it!

Mark said...

We need to get our boys together. They may find a true connection with each other. If it helps Kaish any, you can let him know that I struggled in Math too. And that I have a Mom just like his who loves me to pieces.
Your Friend, m.

Brian Miller said...

you are a good mom..smiles.

Jen said...

Wow...you are an amazing mom...and I believe I am going to get my 4th grade daughter to read your post. We go through the same tears so often due to math, but I've never as eloquently expressed my hopes for her and acceptance of whoever she'll turn out to be as you have for Kaish...thanks for sharing this!

Karin van D. said...

*hug* for both of you. With a loving mom like you he can only grow up a kind, wonderful person. We need more of those in the world.

JennyRain said...

sigh... i love this ;)

Kristina P. said...

Math is hard! I don't blame him one bit!

jen@odbt said...

You're such a great mom. Hugs to you both.

Tracy P. said...

You are SUCH a WISE mom! Of course it breaks your heart, but you are using this opportunity to teach him such a very important lesson--one that can only be learned through a struggle. May God give you strength!

Suki said...

He is so lucky to have you as a mom!
And sometimes even me, or someone else reading this feels like he does. So it is okay to feel like that. He is the best boy on the planet! Big hugs to him!

Angela@the crazyness that is me said...

What lovely words to a boy from his sweet Mum. :)

Phyllis said...

This is just a wonderfully sweet post.

Skeller said...

Kaish is ever so lucky to have you as Mom.

thatgirlblogs said...

oh... it's hard. TheTeen simply didn't turn in his math homework. 13 assignments worth! The middle school never contacted me, and the first I knew about it was a D on his report card. Lots of tears, both ways. Stay strong, you're doing great.

CJ said...

You handle things with such grace. I heard somewhere that 5th grade math is the hardest year. I know it was really difficult for me as well. Hope it gets easier!!

Mari said...

I was never fond of math either! I hope it gets easier for him. At least he has an awesome Mom!

Shey said...

Oh Becky...I wonder if he maybe it's not him but the teacher...this is so sad, my boy struggles with Math too, he loves to read and gobbles chapter books like they were picture books, but he struggles in Math, last night after I watched that documentary I felt so heartbroken for so many students who are left behind because of incopetent teachers or "the System" that fails students... I'm glad you were there to comfort him.

Diana...aka...MeMe said...

Please tell him...He IS BETTER AT MATH than ME!!! It's ok~ being your best is always best!

antoinette marie said...

so funny we were discussing 'life lessons' for our children in my last blog....and guess what? you did everything exactly right! great job mom and sweet post!

April said...

You tell Kaishon that I'm not a math whiz, either...not even close! Doing your BEST...that's really really matters.Becky...you are such a caring and insightful mom. That boy of yours is so incredibly lucky to have YOU!

Caroline said...

Oh Becky, you are such a great and loving Mom! All you can do is wrap your arms around him... He will be fine (trust me, I sucked in math!!!). Not all of us are wired that way. He's going to do great things, because he has the best role model! xoxo

Dina @ 4 Lettre Words said...

Of course he can with that kind of love and encouragement! Such a wonderful Mama. XO!

Gigi said...

What a very wise momma you are! Yes, all we want is for our children to do the best they can and be the best they can - and with all the love and encouragement he is getting he will conquer the world one day!

And tell him, he isn't the only one who struggles with math - I still do to this day - but you know what? It's okay because you learn to work around it AND you get to use a calculator when you are an adult.

Marie: said...

This was a very, very moving post. Mom's words of encouragement are an indelible mark on childhood. Thanks for sharing. I really enjoyed this.

keli [at] kidnapped by suburbia said...

oh, becky ... this is such a beautiful post. you are one of the best moms i know. i appreciate that all you ask from him is his best.

and creative types don't always need math. ;)

myevil3yearold said...

Ohhh, my heart breaks a little for both of you. Boo struggles in school and he tries so hard and he cares so much. I tell him the same thing... do his best but that I also know that he can conquer anything. Grammar is our big thorn right now.

The hardest thing I have ever had to hear was Boo telling me that I need to realize he is just not that smart.

Those are the hard moments of parenting that no one tells you about.

Buckeroomama said...

I just want to reach out and hug you both! Kaish has the best mommy ever.

Casey said...

Sweet boy. My son struggles with reading so I get where you are coming from... We all have our talents. Mine is definitely not math either. lol. Tell him as long as he can count change and balance a check book... he's all good. :)

Stacy of KSW said...

What an incredible combo the two of you are! Wish you'd swing by my place and give me an encouraging talk like that. I think your response was just about as close to perfect as it can get, exactly the kind of mother I hope to be too. :)

maren said...

You mentioned conquering the world with kindness--I think kindness in today's world is highly overrated! And you're a great mom for requiring his best, even if it is a D. This from a former math teacher. :) maren

Wanda said...

Perfect wisdom - amazing love!

Marla said...

Don't give up on him... When I was in the 2nd grade I could barely spell my name- literally. I struggled so hard and then one day it just clicked. I ended up graduating from college with honors in three and a half years.

Marla @ www.blueskiesphotoblog.com

My Putri said...

wow..nice blog u have..
a very touching story indeed..
dt worry - in time he wil strive true.. we all did ..
God BLess..

Gerri said...

Oh, bless you...Sounds like you were there for him. School CAN be tough, kudos to you for being such a loving and supportive Mom. ;)

Maddy said...

You are such a great mom, Becky! I was never a math kid growing up...not even till this day! He'll make it through, especially with a wonderful mom like you cheering him on!

Anne U said...

That was absolutely beautiful.

Jennifer @ Studio JRU said...

Aww... my heart goes out to your sweet boy. You are such a good mom! What a gift he has in you Becky! ♥

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

Warm, sweet tribute to Kaish. You should look into a tutor. I used to tutor kids on the side and it made a big difference in how they were able to grasp different concepts taught with their own learning style. I hope it all makes sense to him soon.

Ky said...

Dear Kaishon,
You are awesome, just the way you are. I didn't like Maths at school either. It wasn't my strong subject. I have to tell you that Maths isn't the be all and end all of everything. You will do sooo well in your life, even if you aren't great at Maths. Just keep being you and do as your fantastic Mum has asked. Just do your best. That's all you can do and you will be brilliant!

Love Ky from Australia xx

Ps, you have the bestest smile ever and everytime I see photos of you it makes me smile. That is quite a gift you have young man. YOU make people happy.

Pumpkin Delight said...

Oh, poor guy. I hate to hear that he cried. :( He is great and so are you. I disliked math when I was a kid. It was so hard for me...and my dad was a math teacher! Now, it's my most favorite subject to teach my second graders.

babYpose said...

I love Kaish's mom as she is positive in every way.

May said...

Please tell Kaish, that his mommy is so right!! It not's about what you learnt and what you did in this life, it's all about how you live!!!! A human being with the kindest soul and generous heart is ten times better than the maths wiz around!!!!

Jimi Ann said...

I so admire the character and love you're sprouting in him. It's so much more important in life than math. My daughter struggles with math and cries a lot about it too. We focus on her strengths and point those out -- like her writing, and encourage her to excel in that. No one enjoys everything and she's prob. never going to be a math professor, and that's ok. :) Kaishon is SO BLESSED to have you! His life is full of richness and real-ness.

Busy Bee Suz said...

YOU are the best mom ever. Such wise words you have given him....I hope he realizes it is all TRUE.
I STILL can't do math. I had such issues in school with it; and I still do.
xoxoxo

Becca said...

You are such a good momma! :-)

sophie...^5 said...

This sounds so familiar...tell Kaishon...all's well and everything will work out. Love and encouragement!

Lizzi said...

So wise and so sweet. Math was and is a struggle for me and I remember many a night crying over formulas and equations. He's definitely not alone there.

Danelle said...

Well that just made me cry a little bit--because of the hard time in math, but also because of what you had to say about it.

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Elizabeth said...

You are such a great mom. He's LUCKY to have you. I also had a hard time in math. I'm SO sorry he's dealing with that. We'll be praying for you guys.

Dorian Susan said...

Awww. You did and said just the right things. I remember the 5th grade math teacher in the building where I taught-she was amazing. All kids did well with her math teaching. Wish I could send her your way-she does live near Philly. Hope all the pieces start to go together for him. Cribbage? That's what helped me. Now I love math.

Kelly said...

You're such a great mom. I love the message and it's one I have to remind myself to share. My kiddo is also too hard on himself, but he's the best 10 year old I've ever known. That's much more important than math facts!

Erika B said...

Oh, you are such a great mom to encourage him to be the best person he can be. Beautiful post. And we all know that there is a perfectly happy life to be lived even if you're not great at maths.

Erika B

Raymonde said...

There is so much more to life than maths, but not when you are in 5th Grade and yet he will be fine because he has you. Take care.

Sorry I have been behind with visiting and commenting.

Will do better this week :) xxx

Between You and Me said...

you're a good mama.

Freckles & Dimples Photography said...

what love. i dont get math, not a second grader's math, let alone a 5th graders....

nic said...

you are the very best kind of mama. (and he is the very best kind of kid.)

Jamie said...

What a great mama you are. That post brought tears to my eyes. I hope math gets easier for Kaishon.

Liz said...

You're such a great Mom! I struggled with math too!

Melinda said...

Math was a thorn in my side too. And then one day, in 8th grade, it clicked. And from that point on I was making high A's. Surprised the heck out of myself, and my teacher, and my mom :-) Hoping the same will happen to your sweet boy!!

Tiaras said...

that was so sweet and lovely - not to be rude - please don't take offense - there is a wonderful program through Kumon - I am not sure if they have this in your area. Really, my son and my daughter go to Kumon classes (they are available in reading and math). Kumon will sort of re-teach your son's brain a bit and he will learn to LOVE Math! It is a bit expensive - but so worth it!

Teachinfourth said...

There are a few 5th graders I work with on a daily basis before and after school so they can 'get it.' I understand Kaishon's pain...sometimes, I feel it vicariously as well through my students.

retrohipmama said...

Great job to you. Encouragement is the best medicine! Our 9yo struggles with focus so it effects everything but we keep telling him he's smart, he just has to do his best...just like you're telling Kaishon.

I'm sure he's good at other things too...Math's not for everyone! =)

Keep up the good work!