Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Saying Goodbye to Shoshi

Sometimes I forget
that you,
dear sweet blog reader,
do not live right next door to me : )shoshi 5
You don’t know all the details.
Sometimes I forget to tell you the details.
My apologies.
Here are the details about Shoshi leaving.shoshi 1
Well, wait, I don’t think I ever wrote about when Shoshi came.shoshi 2
This was as good as you got:
Shoshi and his Mom came to America
so Shoshi could go to 4th grade in the United States.shoshi 21
Shoshi came at the end of August.
He did not speak a lot of English.
Perhaps 30 words.shoshi 12
In just 2 weeks,
by the time school started,
he was speaking fluently.shoshi 11
Shoshi’s Mom could understand some English,
but struggled with speaking it.shoshi 3
She missed Shoshi’s Dad very much.
Shoshi’s Dad has a business in Bangladesh.shoshi 4
In Bangladesh they are very wealthy.
They have a mansion, servants, and drivers.shoshi 14
Here they were not wealthy.
They lived with Shoshi’s extended family-
in the basement.
Shoshi came into our lives and added so much.shoshi 8
So much joy.shoshi 10
So much excitement.shoshi 9
So much happiness.shoshi 13
He was the brother Kaishon longed for.s5  He was one of those people
that startle you with their heart.s4
Since he has been gone,
we don’t know how we ever got along without him
Although he was an early riser,
we learned to love the doorbell ringing as the day began.s2  Shoshi loved America.
He loved 4th grade.
He got all A’s.s
His Mom missed his Dad.
They had to go back.
When Shoshi first came
he couldn’t wait to go back to Bangladesh.
As the months wore on, he didn’t want to return.
It was hard to let him go.
  They left without saying goodbye.shoshi 20
Perhaps his Mom knew it would be too sad.
All of us are sad.
There is a void.s7
It is good to know that he is happy in his part of the world,
good to know that he is smiling and laughing and playing,
good to know he will go on to touch others in great ways.
It is just sad right now to be without him.shoshi 16
You will still see lots of pictures of him during the summer
as I go thru camera cards.
We had so many adventures I haven’t blogged yet.
I know that he touched your life with his smile.
He has impacted us all.
We will never be the same.
Here are some old Shoshi posts:
(you know, just in case I haven’t posted enough pictures of him…. )
shoshi 6
This is how we look since he has left.
(Crying all the time)shoshi 22

P.S.
You are beautiful.

103 comments:

Yelena R. said...

Awww sadness :(

Mari said...

I'm sad! I always loved your Shoshi posts. His personality shone through the photos. Glad his family is reunited though.

Marilyn said...

Awww. That is sad. Can you keep in touch online? Hope so.

Sylvia K said...

It is sad and I do hope you can stay in close touch. Such a beautiful and delightful young man. I know Kaishon must miss him, too. Gorgeous photos of them all -- next best thing to being with them! Have a great week, give Kaishon a hug for me. Enjoy!

Sylvia

mimi said...

Amazing....beautiful....sad....joyful. I couldn't imagine anything less from anyone who has entered your life. Can't wait to see more.

Ashley Sisk said...

After reading the story and seeing the pictures - I miss him too!

photowannabe said...

Sigh....
You made me tear up reading your post and seeing those wonderful photos.
The one of Soshi and the sweet baby while he is studying her fingers just made me gasp. Priceless.
So sad they didn't say goodbye but I think I understand how hard it would have been. I hope they will contact you soon.

lifebythecreek said...

Wait... I go away for just a few days and a major player in your life is just .... gone? Nooooooo! I am so, so sad for you. Happy that Shoshi is back with his dad, and his friends, and the life that he was born into. But sad for all of you (and for him, too...), because he fit into your life as if he was a part of your puzzle. And now a piece is missing. I do hope he can come back to visit; I feel sure that there will always be a place in your puzzle for him...

Skeller said...

dang, Becky. now I need to go hunt down a kleenex.
I've enjoyed seeing Soshi as a huge part of your lives this last year...
you guys LOVE well. your neighborhood is sooooo lucky to have you.

Linds said...

that's SO sad. Poor Kaish!

Busy Bee Suz said...

As you said to me about my LoLo: "God has many plans"...i am sure there are some big plans for Shoshi.

This made me cry. I hope he is happy...I hope he writes or calls Kaishon. :0
hugs, Suz

Paula Scott said...

You never know when your paths will cross again. Until then, at least there are many rich memories to live off of!

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I felt tears coming to my eyes as I looked at all of the pictures of Shoshi. He is such a beautiful kid. I can see the sparkle in his eyes and know what he's added to you all. Do you think Kaishon can email him?

jen@odbt said...

This made me so sad. I hope Kaishon can email or skype with him. What great pictures. I know you will cherish the memories you had together.

Heather said...

Hello SITSta! I can only imagine how hard it must be to fall in love with such an amazing little boy and then have to say goodbye, especially so suddenly. What a wonderful tribute to his sweet, effacious personality!

Dot O said...

Oh Becky, I am so sad....... He's such a beautiful little boy. He took a part of all of you with him back to his home..... Thank goodness you took so many photographs.

{{{{hugs}}}

Wendy said...

Absolutely heart-wrenching to read this...what a beautiful tribute to an amazing influence and presence in your family... You captured this with so much soul...and heart.

Roger Owen Green said...

"starle with their heart". we all ought to startle with our hearts. I have stuck in my mind a song (Leonard Cohen, I think), "Hey, That's No Way to Say Goodbye", the Judy Collins version.

My 5 Monkeys(Julie) said...

beautiful pictures of life :)

jen said...

After reading over the comments, I'm glad I'm not the only one nearly in tears. Shoshi sounds wonderful and the pictures you shared are just beautiful. I'm looking forward to seeing and reading more!

Gayle said...

You'll have lots and lots of memories to look back on and the impact he's had on you and your family shows, I can tell.

Buckeroomama said...

Aww, poor Kaish... We'll miss Shoshi, too. Maybe not in the same way you'll miss him, but we will miss him.

Maybe it would be great if Kaish and he can write to each other or keep in touch via Skype. :)

God's Favorite Shoes! said...

Awww...I would not have handled not saying goodbye so well. I need closure.

Kelly said...

That is a beautiful post for your son's dear, dear friend. He will be missed by your blog readers as well. His smile was contagious. How precious that you have so many wonderful pictures for your son to have to remember his friend for always!

Rhonda said...

Great post and awesome pictures!!!

Muthering Heights said...

I'm sure you will all miss him so MUCH!!! :(

Modesty is Pretty said...

what a beautiful post...it's amazing how people come and touch our lives in unexpected ways. I found this post so beautiful.

Mama Zen said...

What a sad and sweet post!

Amy said...

This is really an exquisite post - your photos tell the story but your narrative is heartbreaking. Hopefully you'll stay in touch - I can understand why they didn't say goodbye - just too painful.

Lori said...

This made me cry too...such a sweet boy...I hope that somehow your familys will be able to stay in touch through writing or something like Skype. I am sorry for your loss. Sending hugs. XXX

debi9kids said...

OMGOSH. What a heartbreaking post :(
I'm sorry you didn't get a chance to say goodbye... how hard.

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Sarah said...

Oh I'm so sad for you guys :( I can't believe you didn't get to say goodbye. I think you should totally plan a surprise trip to Bangladesh and go stay in the mansion with servants and drivers!

Karen Deborah said...

awhh sweetie you are so loving. no address to write letters? Surely they will read your blog. What a beautiful boy. He isn't a "was" he is and somehow you will be able to hear from him again.

Tumblewords: said...

Oh, that's sad. Maybe sometime all that happiness will come 'round again. As always, you are the master of portraits. Excellent!

Tracy P. said...

He has such a captivating smile. It's easy to see why you would miss him--so sad not to have some closure.

LindaFaye said...

It's so hard to say goodbye to friends. I try to enjoy the now knowing that people come and go. A lifelong lesson for me to learn!

Hildred and Charles said...

Shoshi has made a great impression on your lives, - the kind that you carry forward through all your days. I hope that you have a way to communicate with him and his family - surely in this incredible age of communication this will be possible. So sad to say goodbye, - even sadder not to be able to say goodbye and express your love.

Elaine A. said...

Aw man,I miss him now too and I JUST got to know him. What a beautiful boy. That pic of him holding the baby is SO, so beautiful. Thanks for sharing about Soshi. And making me cry!! ;-)

Mighty M said...

I feel truly sad that he has left. :(

Baby Favorite said...

That makes me sad, too. I'm sorry that he left but happy for your time together. He was blessed by you, as well.

Matty said...

He has a genuine smile. I've always heard that children learn another language much easier than adults. Hopefully, you will be able to stay in touch with him and his family.

Josh, Steph, The Boys and Maddie said...

Oh I am sooo so so sorry. That makes me so sad. I am going to miss all the great photos of him... I am so so sorry again

Mom2Isabel said...

Wow!
Do you have a gift with words.
Bawling here right now.

What a gift he was to all of you...and you to him.

Amazing photos, Rebecca. Can't wait until the workshop.
See you in 9 days!
Woo hoo!

Lynn said...

I love your way of story telling and all those smiles to go with it. Shoshi sounds awesome to have in your livesbfor the past year.

Kayce said...

Such a beautiful story in pictures and in words. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. What an awesome experience for you and most of all for Shoshi.

Anita Johnson said...

What a loss for all of you and those of us in the blog world that have fallen in love with his big brown eyes and wide smile. Please tell him that we wish him the best!
Thanks!

Erin said...

That's tough! I know it's hard, but I also know you guys wish him nothing but the best....and I hope you get to see each other again!

Missy said...

I don't even know Shoshi, but now I miss him :( You tell a beautiful story with your pictures and words. I hope that Shoshi and his family are reunited and happy. I know that your lives will forever be changed by your sweet friends. Hugs! Beautiful pics, btw!

Reader Wil said...

I am so sorry for you missing Shoshi! It's such a great story and the photos are so beautiful. Thanks for your visit! I also like coming to your blog.

RoseBelle said...

Thanks for sharing about Shoshi. It reminds me of stories I heard about wealthy immigrants who come to America to seek a better life for their kids. Leaving behind their culture and wealth, they struggle here in the U.S. I wish Shoshi and his family the best.

Angela said...

Oh thats so sad... We left too without saying goodbye to many. It was too hard....

alessandra said...

This was so sweet and sad at the same time, hope he reads your post.

WarmSunshine said...

wonderful narration...

left me with a tinge of sadness. The boy is so cute.

dropping by here from SITS :)

Raymonde said...

Hi, I am in tears over here. I can only imagine your void.

The photos and narrative are beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I am praying for Shoshi and his family and for you and your family to look after those tender bonds.

With a lot of affection. xxx

Mara said...

It may be a ztretch, but it'z a good pozt nonethelezz. Hopefully you will be able to meet up with him again zometime in the future!

fleur de lis cottage said...

Oh how people can come into our lives and make such a beautiful, huge impact.

Oh what a blessing and sadness at the same time. Beautiful post and images!!

parentingBYdummies said...

Sucks that he had to leave. Sorry you guys are sad. It is a bit of a good lesson for Kaish about living every moment to the fullest and opening your heart to people and appreciating them while they are with you. As a kid that grew up moving around a lot and having to say goodbye to people before I was ready, I think having those experiences shaped me for the better (increased spontaniety, allowed me to be more accepting, etc.) and made me who I am today. It sucks that his best pal is gone, but at least they had the chance to create a beautiful friendship that some people never have the opportunity to enjoy. Hope he heals soon!

Love Letters To China said...

I was wondering where he went too. I'm so sorry for your son and family. It must be so hard for you to deal with the emptiness. It shows through your pictures how much everyone loved him. What a blessing to have known him for that short amount of time. So fortunate to have such amazing memories.

ourlifeinaclick.blogspot.com said...

Awww..I got all teary! You have such a way with words and pictures. These images are a treasure for you and your family for for Shoshi too one day!

Terri said...

I'm so sorry to hear about him leaving but also happy that you all made such a wonderful friend. What a special little boy that will always be a special part of your family. ((hugs))

Christy said...

what an amazing story, in all aspects. kinda sucks that he left without saying goodbye, but your family and friends were blessed to know him and his mom!

Elizabeth said...

Oh my goodness. This is SO beautiful. Thanks for posting this. I know this will mean the world to him. What a great friend to have and a great friend to be!

JamericanSpice said...

Now you gone and made me tear up.

Ahh. Sigh.

I'm sorry.

These people like Shoshi are wonderful angels. Always they touch our lives beautifully....

I enjoyed the photos too.

Christine said...

What a great story and such fabulous photos (as always.)

Brooke said...

what a sweet little boy! and oh my at all the silly bands!

Valerie@composition-life said...

What a beautiful post - and so neat that you now have a connection to the otherside of the world!

Dina @ 4 Lettre Words said...

I wish I did live next door, B!!

Such a sweet story. I know he misses you equally. XOXO!

Lolli said...

So sad! It's so hard to adjust to a friend who is no longer there.

JinXiu said...

How sad,.... Awww...I would not have handled not saying goodbye so well.

Amy said...

that is so sad, he seemed to be such a part of your family. good luck adjusting to having him gone - hopefully he and Kaishon will get to see each other again.

Megan (Best of Fates) said...

He seems like such a beautiful little boy, inside and out - I'm sure he's missing you just as much.

Anna K. said...

How blessed you all were to have the joy of each other's company...if only for a season. I hope there is a way y'all can stay in touch.

Baloney said...

Oh no! That is sad. :(
I loved seeing pictures of Soshi on here. He has a great smile.

Heidi said...

oh my goodness. i am sorry for the void and the pain. i know that you are finding comfort and happiness in the fact that he is home with his daddy though.

i;m so sorry. so happy that you had the chance to know him. also, what a belssing to be loved by you.

xoxox

CM said...

Oh so sad, but yet bitter sweet. I hope you are going to be able to keep in touch with him and his mom???

Beautiful photos as always.

~ Noelle said...

that was a sad and sweet post all at the same time...
thank you for sharing it

These Three Kings said...

WAAAA!!! Oh my word, I miss him too and I havent even met him!!! I pray the LORD brings you all back in contact soon. I am thankful God allowed him to play a small part of your family the little time he did. Love the pictures!! Hope you are having a great day :)

Romans 8:28-29

SarahinSC said...

I feel so sad and I didn't even know him! Great pictures and story!

Colleen said...

I am so sorry that you had to say good bye to this precious boy who brought you so much happiness! I'm afraid I don't know your full story so I may have to settle in for some serious reading.
You write just beautifully though...you really capture feelings perfectly and uniquely.
I hope that you and your family have a blessed summer!
Love Colleen

Rene W. said...

What an amazing story ~ Thank you so much for sharing it. I do hope that you will share more about him. I love your blog!

Sarah said...

what a beatiful blog you have...what a beautiful person you are!!!

Annelie said...

I´m sorry, it´s so sad.....

He & Me + 3 said...

Oh no...No more Soshi...His face did light up your blog often. This post is beautiful and he is so photogenic. Sorry they left without saying goodbye.
((hugs))

keli @ kidnapped by suburbia said...

oh this is making me cry. i'll miss his face on your blog, as well. i hope he is enjoying life back in his homeland.

Sharon Ankerich said...

That was the sweetest story!!! :)

Karli said...

OK, now I'm sitting here at 11:30 crying...and I don't even know this sweet guy! What a sad story. It was beautiful the way you wrote it; I wish it had a happy ending. Maybe someday it will. Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and for all your sweet comments. They totally made my evening. I always love peeking at your blog for b&w wednesday, and I've missed the last couple weeks. I'll try to make it next week. Have a wonderful rest of the week! :-) Blessings!

mrsnesbitt said...

Thank you so much for contributing to ABC Wednesday - I always enjoy the journey we take each Wednesday as it leads us so far away in some respects and yet posts like this bring us right back to where we are with who we love - that is what is so important!
Hope to see you for Round 7?????
Denise
ABC Team

Dita said...

Tears in my eyes about the coming and going of Shooshi...but then, I see he has not gone...he is in your hearts and I imagine he will remain there forever.

Love is an amazing thing, isn't it.

Your images just touch me...deeply.

Dita

Alicia said...

Oh my gosh!!!! This makes me want to cry!!!!!!!!!!

I hope you guys have his address so he and Kaishon can keep in touch. I'm sure with technology these days, it's so easy to do that.

How is Kaishon doing????

Hilary said...

Oh I'm so sorry you and yours are sad and missing Shoshi. I will miss his smiling face in your wonderful photos. I hope you'll be able to keep in touch.

I just adore the image of him holding the baby.. his look and touch is so tender. Beautiful boy.

Many Titles said...

Thanks for coming over to my blog after reading about how much of a junkie I am on Kelle Hampton's blog =)

Even with not knowing who this Shoshi boy was to you and your family... you can see how much you truly cared for him. When someone comes into our lives so unexpected, touches us, changes us and then leaves just as unexpectedly as they arrived you can't help but be forever changed. I am sure that he will never know to what extent he was such a blessing to you or even the other way around!

mamamia said...

This makes me want to cry, too! So sad Soshi is gone!

Stacey said...

I'm going to miss that little boy but I can't even imagine how Kaishon feels!

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I hope his mom has every one of those gorgeous pictures you took of her beautiful boy!

Adrienne in Ohio said...

Oh, this makes my heart ache! I'm so sorry.

I remember moving around a lot as a kid--being in several different elementary schools. Goodbyes weren't always arranged, and that was hard on my brother and me. I'm still looking for my best friend from second & third grade.

Give Kaish extra hugs. It's harder on the ones left behind than the ones moving away, sometimes.

Liz said...

I am so sad for you guys! I hope that over the years you all will still stay in touch.

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

Oh Becky, this post breaks my heart!! I am sure you are all just devastated.....and to not even get to say goodbye.....~sigh~

Hope Kaishon is hanging in there.....it is so hard for them to understand this type of thing!

Hugs to you all!!

See you next week....I promise, I will give you call before Friday:)

Lisa

Suki said...

That's so sad and upsetting he left without a goodbye.
I am sad for you friend.
Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Mrs4444 said...

I'm so glad he came back to say goodbye.

Can I just say this random, odd thing? I am a little jealous of your "colorful" life, filled with people of all different races. (It's very white here, and I miss the diversity; we used to live in upstate NY.) Some day...

The Sanchez Family said...

Your blog is AWESOME! GREAT photography....great moments captured...had to giggle at the photo with the silly bandz...need to get one of my boys and theirs :)!!! Thanks for finding me so I could find you in blog land :)!

Mom Taxi Julie said...

Aww how sad that he left. I'll miss all the cute pictures of him playing with your son.

Mom Taxi Julie said...

Love the new cards and Griffin does a great job on the bed :)