Sunday, July 26, 2009

730 days

gary and kaish

2 years ago,

before we got married,

I could have told you exactly how to have

the perfect marriage.

I would have said things like

‘Never go to bed angry,

be kind all the time,

encourage and uplift….’

well, you know, all the things

that probably come to your mind

when you think of marriage.

I was sure,

that if anyone could have complete bliss

in a marriage it was Gary and me.

I mean, how hard could it be?

And now, 2 years later,

I have no idea how to have

a perfect marriage.

Our marriage is many things

and perfect is not one of them.

It is really hard.

Extraordinarily hard some days.

There are many moments that make me want to scream

and many moments that make me smile.

It’s been an exquisite  journey.

I am  glad I get to be his wife.

I love our marriage

with it’s Ups and Downs

(although truth be told,

I could do with a few less Downs this year)

Our love has changed and grown

over the past 730 days

and I am thankful

we embarked on this journey.

I love you Gary.

2 years down- Many more to go!

"My heart is ever at your service." Shakespeare

What anniversary are you celebrating this year?


septembermom said...

Happy Anniversary! A wonderful post about the roller coaster ride of marriage. A good marriage takes work that's for sure:) I'll be celebrating my 16th anniversary in September. I'm feeling a little old:) Love the new look of your blog too!

JAMIE ANN said...

Thanks for that. I completly understand. I love being married but sure is hard somedays. I will be married 10 years in October. We sure have our ups and downs and mostly in this past year. Happy Anniversary!

mimi said...

Happy Anniversary!! You are so wise!

Your blog looks fabulous. I love it!

Dawn said...

i'm glad you are celebrating... and though the downs are so tough, i cling the the lessons learned. this year eric & i will celebrate 17 years... and through the ups and downs, there is not one minute i am not thankful for...

Dot O said...

Happy Anniversary!!! What a wonderful and very true post.... Lots of ups and downs and sometimes hard to not go to bed angry. We are coming up on 20 years on November 11. There are some days that just his breathing can set me off, but bottom line is I know there is no one else on this earth that I'd rather be married to.

Enjoy your day! Are you going out for dinner???

Marilyn said...

Happy Anniversary!! Now, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Mike and I celebrated 40 years of marriage this past January.

Thanks so much for your sweet words on my grandma-ing. I am blessed to know you. You are so uplifting. I know Gary feels blessed too. Take care and enjoy the day.

The Incredible Woody said...

Happy Anniversary! Hope you guys have something special planned!

Gary Rith Pottery Blog said...

TWO YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
We will have ou 17th wedding anniversary on Christmas :)

Martha in PA said...

Happy Anniversary. Congratulations, I wish you both many many more!

Busy Bee Suz said...

This is such truthful anniversary message and I would not expect anything other than that from you.
Congrats to you both. I also hope your year is full of UPs!!!
We just had our 18th. It has flown by and I am thankful for everyday we have had..even the downs for they make me appreciate the ups even more.

Love your new look!!

gretchen said...

Yay for the new layout...maybe I am late on that, but I like it. Congratulations on your anniversary! I hope you have many more. Jamie and I are celebrating our 12th anniversary in September--can you believe it!!!

Grandma J said...

Happy Anniversary to you and Gary. I love the way you make it real!

Living on the Spit said...

Fabulous new look...I love it! Marriage is exactly what you stated here...some days it is wonderful and some days...not so much.

Have a wonderful anniversary!!!

Caroline said...

Hi!:) Thanks for popping over to my blog :D I like the 'big-photo' layout too :D Do you know how to increase the size of your photos in each post? Read HERE if you don't;

It's really simple. I've since worked out that the optional sizes are s320/480/640/720/800 - HTH :D
And Yes, I do use live writer sometimes on my laptop and no, I haven't had spacing issues. I particularly used it when we were off-line for a month during our move and then spent a day loading all the posts up ;-) I really like the program, but can't get it to work on my PC which is a bit old now and won't let me have any of the 'live' programs except messenger!
Happy Anniversary BTW :D
We will be celebrating 14 years in September (one child for every 2 years of marriage) and I LOVE my man to bits. I look forward to growing old with him :D I think our marriage is probably harder work for him than me!!

theArthurClan said...

This is such a perfect description of true is full of ups and plenty of downs too. It's the commitment that makes a difference and you definitely have that. Congrats on celebrating your anniversary!!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

Happy Anniversary and many more! Hold hands every chance you get. It works for us!

Jenni said...

Happy anniversary! This is a wonderful post and so true. If a person views marriage in terms of fairy-tale, happily-ever-after, I think they are bound to be disappointed when those hard times come up (as they inevitably do). I hope you did something fun to celebrate the big day!

Thanks for stopping by my blog!

Mental P Mama said...

Happy Anniversary! Wonderful post;)

Pilar said...

Happy anniversary!

It is funny when we think we know the answers of everything and then we find out we know nothing at all. Praise God He is our guide and one we can always look for for answers.

Have a wonderful day!

Caroline said...

Oh happy anniversary! Enjoy your wonderful day...and many many many more ;)

Loving the new blog design! The header is amazing!

Julie said...

Happy Anniversary! Love the post and we are celebrating in a week our 8th anniversary... :)

love the new look, and I just love this template. I love it for me too, did you do it yourself? I keep playing around with mine and cannot figure out what picture to put up top!!!

Maggie May said...

Happy Anniversary!

sunnyme said...

Happy Anniversary!
I hope your marriage lasts until the very end.
No relationship is easy and someone who tells you the opposite, just lies.

I have no anniversary's going on around here this year!

Ruby Red Slippers said...

And congrats-
Marriage is much harder than I thought as well-but also much better.

erica said...

Happy Anniversary!!! Yeah!! I can't believe it has been two years for you either. Wow, I just reconnected with you on fb right after you got married.
We are approaching eleven years!!!

Trudy said...

Happy Anniversary Rebekah! My husband and I are in our 2nd year of marriage right now after celebrating #1 back in May. It is tough for sure, but I would not have it any other way. The thing that keeps it good, above all else, is the fact that Jesus is our center! I pray that the coming year brings you more ups than downs and that you learn much in the valleys! God bless you both in your lives and in your marriage. I pray you have many happy years ahead of you!

richies said...

Happy Anniversary. What a heartwarming and refreshingly honest post.

An Arkies Musings

Pumpkin Delight said...

Happy Anniversary!

Liz said...

Happy Anniversary! We will be celebrating our 12th this year. My marriage isn't perfect either but I wouldn't change a thing!

antoinette marie said...

amazingly wonderful sentiment and revelation.....congrats on blissful's always much better than fantasy.....same thing i did with parenting, lol! blessings...

p.s. love, love, love the new layout and pic of kaish!

drewmark19 said...

Happy Anniversary! I hope you two get to have a night out on the town. :)

Eyeglasses & Endzones said...

Love it! You are sooo eloquent. When is you book coming? I would be glued to those pages...for real!

Hubs and I are on year 11...CHOKE CHOKE. Soak it all in, make it better every day because as I type that I can hardly believe it!!!

LOVE THE PIC of your BOYS!!!

jlo said...

The big 10!!!

Granny Smith said...

Treasure every minute of it, up and downs as well!

Becca said...

What a great post! I love it - fantastic reminder too that marriage isn't all about the love "feelings"!

Jennifer Bowen said...

Happy Anniversary, Rebeckah!!! You have such a beautiful family. Love the photo of your hubby and son. My husband and I are celebrating our 12th anniversary next month. I'm just a bit sad celebrating it without him here. However, I am happy to say we're still in love after so many years. My heart still skips a beat when I see him or hear his voice. He is truly my soulmate.

And yes, it's common to have ups and downs... besides, what's a marriage without those, right? :)

Brooke said...

happy (belated) anniversary!! :)

Live.Love.Eat said...

I love your honesty and out of the very many anniversary posts I see yours is one of my favs because of the honesty. It IS very hard. But happy anniversary.

And oh, I keep forgetting to tell you I love your new layout. LOVE it. You're awesome, such a good person.

Unknown Mami said...

That is a beautiful tribute to your marriage. Happy Anniversary!

We are celebrating our second in October

Melinda said...

I missed this post, I'm soooo sorry!! I hope you guys had a wonderful anniversary though, even without my congrats and salutations for a Happy Anniversary. May you have a lifetime of wedded bliss.

Josh and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary in June....I think it's seven years...I don't know, I lose count : )