Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Parenting Advice; Oh My!

Well, it's time for Mama Kat's prompts again!
I am picking this prompt:
Share a piece
of unsolicited parenting advice.
Ummmmmmmmm, well, I know A LOT of people
are no doubt dying to know MY parenting advice.
I mean, it is CLEAR, that I am a parenting genius
because, who but a genius, would allow-
even promote- Fighting!


A good bought of fighting
is always welcome at our house!


And then of course, there is my allowance
of fire play.
Only the VERY best mothers allow that : ).



You can see why I hesitate
to share even MORE wisdom...
since the wisdom I have already passed on
is truly amazing!
I will just share this one last piece
of unsolicited advice:

Have a house full of laughter and love.
There are millions and millions of bad things
that happen every day.
Life is full of sadness and hard times.
Make sure your home is filled with
as much love and happiness as
you can possibly stuff into it.


I usually only answer one prompt,
but I loved this one too:
What do you aspire to be?

I aspire to be more like my parents.
Of course I didn't understand
their rules and guidelines
when I was growing up,
but as I look back now,
I can see the love in everything
they said and did.
I aspire to be a parent like they were.
And are.
God gave me the perfect parents.

If you don't have any blogging ideas today
you should play along
.
It is SO much fun!

Leave me a piece of your own parenting advice.
I seriously need all the help I can get!


Love,
a Mommy (Who Promotes Fighting and Fire Play)

XO

64 comments:

Julie@Momspective said...

HA! Those pictures are classic, especially with the narration! Love it!

Trudy said...

That is wonderful parenting advice! The second picture is my favorite, the expressions are just priceless!

Mervat said...

Fighting and fire-play, amen to that!

Wonderful photos!

Liz said...

That is some great advice! Well, since I am not a parent I can't give any advice. I always love the pictures that you post!

Pumpkin Delight said...

Ha ha! Very cute! It must work, everyone looks very happy.

To answer your question...7 more days. Two more this week, then all of next week. We have extra vacation during winter and spring which is great, esp for traveling, but right now I really want to be done! Hope Kaish had a good last few days.

Gabe's Girl said...

Those pictures look surreal. You are amazing. Love is everything, isn't it. my friend?

He And Me + 3 said...

You do not need any help my friend...Kaishon always looks happy. That is what we want for our children. Happiness and success. You are doing great!

Becky said...

I like your parenting advice. It is very poignant and so true. Sometimes I get so caught up in living life that I for get to LIVE it.

Grandma J said...

You have definitely perfected the task! Your parents are so cute.

Busy Bee Suz said...

I love your advice. I am trying to stuff in more fun and love right now!
Your parents are awesome...they made YOU!

Nurse Nancy said...

I am with you! It is all about laughter, love and feeling safe! My parenting skills may be lacking at times but my JBM is a happy guy and we all love him and he knows it....that is what counts.

RR Mama said...

You are such a great mom! And the pics are fab! Thanks for always reminding me what being a mom is all about.

Martha in PA said...

Great post! My advice is pick your battles and don't sweat the small stuff!

ness said...

you're the best mommy ever! Especially for a boy.

my advice....be good at putting kids to bed from the beginning. You need your sleep to be ready to parent!

And what do I aspire to be....oh my....I have no idea, but I'll think about it today!

mimi said...

You and I think alike...fill the house with laughter and love. Great advice. And your parents are adorable...hand holding?? Just adorable!! I can't think of the last time I held hands with G(my bad).

My advice....don't sweat the small stuff, try not to worry about so many details...and ask God for direction as you start each day :) Oh, and think like a child...in fact, play like a child (is that bad advice?) :)

Mandy, Dustin and Thomas said...

Great advice girl. Your post always brighten my day! Love the pictures, put a big smile on my face!

Unknown Mami said...

You don't need my advice, you've already got it down. Laughter and humor just make life so much better. Never ever take yourself too seriously.

Dan said...

You didn't go far enough on the fire play. Every kid should know how to weld and run an acetylene torch. How else are they going to create that custom bike in preparation for the teenage obsession with a custom car?

Kristin said...

What a wonderful post! Great advice!

jlo said...

Love it.
My advice is, besides love and laughter, tradition. Instill family traditions thatthe kids can count on and pass down.

April said...

Great post. Love your advice.

Stacey said...

Great parenting advice!

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Molly Doe said...

I love your advice- lucky kids in the pictures, to be allowed to play.

beautifulinexactly said...

Your photographs are fantastic! Visiting from Mama Kat's. This is my first time stopping at your blog and I'll definitely come back! :-)

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

These days I am picking my battles, savoring the joys and not sweating the small stuff!
Kaishon is growing up right before my blogging eyes!

James said...

Great pics, and where were you when I was a kid? lol

TattooedMinivanMom said...

Only the awesomest moms on earth allow fighting and fire play!

Kimberly said...

Oh, this is one of my favorite posts today in response to Mama Kat's workshop! I was chuckling and smiling throughout it :) What a terrific response and idea!

Erin said...

Now what kind of Mom would you be if you didn't allow fighting a fire play! Love the sparkler pic!

Caroline said...

Give yourself timeouts! :) Breathe often and remember that "this too shall pass." That has saved me a Mom.

Miss K.P.-Ness said...

Perfect Parenting Advice!
As the philosopher Dr. Seuss says:
IF YOU DON'T DO THESE THINGS, I THINK YOU SHOULD, THESE THINGS ARE FUN AND
FUN IS GOOD"

Thanks for your nice comment about my mermaids.
Miss Ness (as in fluffy-Ness)

Stu Pidasso said...

We play with water balloon sling shots and potato cannons, so I am right there with you, girl! i think you got it right with the last one though......love and laughter.....which can be hard to find these days in some places. Rock and write on!!

Kekibird said...

Ok I might have to kick you tushy for this. A great post and then while I'm reading a great Coldplay song comes on to set the mood as I read about your parents. Damn it girl, now I'm tearing up (or it could be the pink eye I'm suffering from). Either way, love the pictures and great parenting advice. I'm stock it away for the time when my 3 year old is taller than me. :o)

mamamia said...

that is the best mom advice, ever!

jen@odbt said...

Beautiful post. In light of my post today, your post brings the message home even more. Love and happiness - can't have too much of it. Thanks for your kind comment.

Foursons said...

Great pictures and I love the tribute to your parents.

Mental P Mama said...

You are the kind of mom every boy and girl would kill to have;) keep it up!

Stacey said...

I love your answers today. It might be that the mom of girls woulndn't understand at all. This house full of boys has always looked very similar to your pictures today. :) Yeah, and the older they get, their weapons change. We have paintball gear everywhere! That includes hubby. :)

Debbie said...

How great! I loved your advice. Basically, you are just allowing the kids to be kids:) And how wonderful that you aspire to be like your parents.

Baby Favorite said...

I have to click all over the bottom of your latest post (when I'm at work) to find the comment button. It doesn't appear, for some reason! Very aggravating!

As strict as I am in some ways, I'm with you -- I'm BIG on having FUN. I love to laugh with my kids and always look at things from their perspective. I think that's one of the best things a parent can do for a child. (It's what my mom did for me. I always felt understood.)

I love the line from Uncle Buck, where John Candy is called into the principal's office because of his kindergarten-aged niece's behavior (whom he's babysitting). He says, "I don't think I want to know a six-year-old who isn't a dreamer, or a sillyheart. And I sure don't want to know one who takes their student career seriously. I don't have a college degree. I don't even have a job. But I know a good kid when I see one. Because they're ALL good kids, until dried-out, brain-dead skags like you drag them down and convince them they're no good...."

So true, so true! Kids live up to your expectations--good or bad.

Molly said...

This is hilarious! I can totally see my 1 year old growing up to play with fire...and me not really minding!

suburbanmom said...

Yep! But don't forget riding bikes in the street with no helmet... That's what my little guy loves to do! ;)

Jenni Jiggety said...

I don't think you need ANY parenting advice! Love, happiness, and fire play sounds PERFECT to me!

Jules from "The Roost" said...

Boys LOVE fighting and Fire. It is like 2nd nature to them. Do you think Mr. Perfect will like it too? You have a wonderful home and family!

Emily said...

Hey! I'm all for a good fight...it wears them out. And how do they learn that fire can hurt if you don't get (slightly) burned a time or two! Great post!

drewmark19 said...

My parenting advice for the day? In order to finish a blog template, hand your one year old brownies, candy and anything else she demands so that she is happy.

:) I SO fail in the parenting department. My kids are happy, though, so that's a good thing.

Real advice? I'd say savor every moment. If you're like me, totally neglect the house and spend time with the kiddos while they still think you are the best thing ever!

...also, thank you so much for your compliments on the new blog design. It made my day. One of these days, I plan on actually figuring out all that coding more thoroughly. Until then, I'll just modify other people's templates. :)

Jessica said...

Oh, come on! Why'd you get all sappy on me?! :)


Loved it...

Marilyn said...

This is such a touching post. You are a great mom! I love how you aspire to be like your parents. I can tell you had a great upbringing because of how you are bring up your son. Great job---being a mom is hard. Lots of times we lose our perspective and dwell on the things that aren't important. I love the saying, 'the best things in life aren't thing.' You prove this over and over with Kaishon. What great memories he of his childhood he will have.

Suki said...

You are a great mom.
Laughter, Love and Fun is always right. Kaishon will have beautiful memories from his childhood.

themrs said...

i nominated you for an award on my blog :)

Darlene said...

Those are great pictures!! Looks like everyone is so happy so what great parenting advice!! Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

antoinettemariew@blogspot.com said...

gonna steal you blog idea cause i'm kinda blah today, lol! not much advice but to let your child be who they are, even if it's not what you envisioned for them....nothing makes for a more unhappy person than the one following someone elses's path! blessings....p.s. great pics and super cute post!

Izzy 'N Emmy said...

haha, how funny! Love those action shots too!

Happy Friday!

Michelle said...

I love your prefacing with the reluctance ;) And YES laughter and love is so important. It's not always so easy to remember what will be important in five years, but that is easily #1!

Jenners said...

The photos are wonderful! I can see there is a lot of fun and happiness ... and all the best things are little bit dangerous. And you are so right ... a house full of love and happiness is all a child really needs to thrive. Well, food and water too.

Kacey R. said...

Great post! I love the picture of your honey & Kaishon. So precious. And the picture of your parents - holding hands in their rockers. I think we all want that. ;D

Sneaky Momma said...

Nothing wrong with a little fighting and fireplay!!!
Loved your tribute to your parents. :)

Scary Mommy said...

I love your advice and totally agree! Kaishon certainly looks like he's doing ok, despite the horrible battles & fire. ;)

And I love that you admire your parents so much. I adore mine too.

Daphine said...

Great post! I love your parenting still sweet friend! You seem to be a Mom with lots of patience and as my girls would say....you're one of those cool Moms!

Kaishon looks like one happy kid to me alllllllllllll the time! Great photos!

The Animator's Wife said...

Love boys being BOYS!

foureverlove said...

oh my! your son is precious as well! thanks for letting me know this is not just me and my computers! I am thankful that i realized it so I can fix it. No one wants to see pictures that looked all faded out, right? And YES...they gorw up WAY too fast. It is so sad, but exciting I guess. :)

Billykidd said...

hahahaha! Well... it's obvious you're doing something right because Kaishon couldn't look like a happier kid!... and I agree!... don't forget to just have FUN!

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