Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Bikini Bodies!



How much does focusing on weight
affect your daily life?
When I was born
The Dr. told my Mom
I would probably never be able to wear a bikini.
My Mom was delighted!
(She is VERY conservative
And just doesn’t think girls
should EVER wear bikinis)
The Dr. didn’t say I would
never be able to wear a bikini
because he could tell that
I was going to grow up horribly round-
But rather because of a birth mark
on my back and side.
I have never worn a bikini.
I probably never will.
But I assure you the birthmark
would be the LEAST of my worries.
Me in a bikini would be frightening-
On so many levels…
But, this brings me to the point of this post!
Did you know I actually had points in my posts?
Any who, the thing I can NOT stand
Is Mommys who don’t take their kids to the pool
Because of how they look.
GET OVER YOURSELF.
I don’t care if you are Hot, Hot, Hot!
Or if you are Round as a Beach Ball.
No one cares about how you look in a suit.
No one.
So stop being a creep-a-zoid and go to the pool.
Your kid will love it.
Go get a cover up.
Go get a tan.
Go get a diet.
Just do something and take your kid to the pool.
This is my public service announcement for the week.
Kaish and I have a little friend
With one of Those mothers.
I think the reason I am a little annoyed about this
And thinking about it EVERY DAY
Is because the mother weighs about 110 pounds.
Or less.
Girls like that-
Women like that-
Make me ill.

Mama Kat has some great prompts this week!
You should join!
How do you feel about Moms like that?
Do you know anyone like that?
Please, oh please, promise me
You are NOT a Mom like that!

73 comments:

Amy said...

That is a great poem. I also loved the pictures. Thanks for stopping by today.

Trudy said...

That last picture is great! I don't know any moms like that, but I'm not really in the 'moms circle' yet since we're still TTC. I do think it's sad that they keep their kids away from the pool though.

I also think one piece suits are much more flattering!

Dan said...

Great poem, but I really want to know how you got that picture of me at the top. I thought there was no one around that day. {*grin*}

M said...

Oh my gosh that's the funniest shirt on that big man! What a sense of humor!

I have a birth mark on my hip...it's not the red kind but darker than my skin color...I am sure I would have been burned at the stake for being a witch in Salem a few hundered years ago! But I still wear a bathing suit!!

Happy Wednesday!

Alicia said...

LOLOLOL @ that picture!!!!!!!!

And oh my..110 lbs. and she's worried??????????? OH boy!

Sally's World said...

i do obsess at times, even tho I'm not exaclty massive... but i would never let it stop me doing something with the kids...you are right tho no one else cares...they are too worried about how they look as well lol!!!

Amy said...

that is ridiculous! I hate my bod would give my right toe to be 110 pounds but would never not take my kids to the pool. Throw on a T shirt and go! maybe she is hiding something else?

Becky said...

110 pounds!?! I could eat her for a between meal snack.lol. I hate the way I look in a suit but that doesn't stop me from getting my kids wet. Skinny chicks who think they are fat really chap my hide... especially when they are complaining to someone my size. But then again eating disorders are terrible diseases to live with. Perhaps your friend has one.

Marilyn said...

I don't know any moms like that but do think there is too much concern in this country about body size. Health should be the concern with all of us. Having a disease of the digestive system, I have been every size imaginable due to medications, etc. Let us all just focus on being happy and healthy!!

Kimberly said...

I completely agree with you! I had to swallow my pride when I started getting really big during this pregnancy as I squeezed into my swimsuit so I could get into the swimming pool with my toddler. Swimming is one of her top favorite things to do. I imagine after I have my baby I'll have to just suck it up and get into my suit so I can take her swimming and that's all that matters. Terrific post!!

Sue said...

I'm not really like that, because of what I look like in a bathing suit, but because I don't really like to go swimming, it's because it's too cold for me- I'm a whimp, but problem solved their Dad does most of the swimming with them. Thanks for stopping by mine.

countryfriedmama said...

We will be at the pool everyday this summer. I will be wearing a skirted swimsuit like a grandma, but we will be at the pool.

The Incredible Woody said...

I hate to think what type of self-image that mother is instilling in her child. Sad!

April said...

I haven't worn a bikini since I was a teenager! My tummy is so WHITE! I wear tankinis, instead, and I go to the pool nearly everyday in the summer with my girls...best times ever! Your pictures made me laugh!

Isabel Princes said...

We have the opposite problem with moms around here. They think they are on the high school red carpet to the prom at the pool and let their little kids run amock.

Great post!

Cortney said...

There is nothing worse than skinny people who talk all the time about how fat they are! UGH!

Jenners said...

Oh that photo at the end just cracked me up! I gotta get one!

And I know exactly what you mean ... it is about giving your kid the good experiences -- not about what you look like. Like you said, get a cover up, lose weight or get one of those swim dresses (they are very forgiving). And isn't it always the ones who weigh 110 pounds that have the most problems!!!???

Great PSA!

Soxy Deb said...

Where do I get my hands on that tshirt?!?!?! Loves it!!

I am right now one of those mothers, BUT!!! My kids are grown. I always took them to the pool/beach, wherever they wanted when they were little. I've always had a self-esteem problem, but I would wear a cover up or something. I would never spoil their day.
My bff on the other hadn, REFUSES to do almost anything that requires a bathing suit. Even thought I actually bought her a very nice cover up. She will not go anywhere, therefore, not take the kids anywhere, if there are too many people and a bathing suit will be worn. It irritates me to no end. I would take them, but they're not mine. :(

So, I'm with you. Get over yourselves and think about your kids ladies!!

Busy Bee Suz said...

YOU CRACK ME UP!!!
I never avoid taking my kids places...and I am no longer 110. :)
I got the tan. I got the coverup. I am over it!!!!
This is a great post. You are too cute!!
Kaish is lucky to have such a great MOM!!

Laura said...

Your post was great! I love the first picture! Thanks for reminding us to keep a good perspective. I had a very large birthmark on my back that was removed when I was a child because it was pre-cancerous. Now it is a pretty big scar, but for some reason I like it... it makes me feel a bit unique.

Thanks for your kind words at me blog.. and reading my whinning. I really enjoyed reading your blog.

MrsW said...

Oh dear - I am a Mum like that - as if being 220lb isn't bad enough now I'm irritating because I don't go swimming? Yikes! As much as I'd like to agree that people don't care about seeing my blubber butt squeezed into a swimsuit... well maybe the don't care, but they DO stare. And I think that kinda bothers my 14 year old daughter a bit as well as me. My three year old couldn't give a monkeys ass but what does he know? He can still count his ribs.

Ragan said...

That last picture made me laugh so hard!

I am self conscious about my weight. I'm at my goal weight (after lots of work to get here and even more effort at staying), but it's still something I think about every day. But, I would never let it keep me from taking my kids to the pool.

RR Mama said...

Great point!! I take my kids to the pool, to the lake, and yes I put on the dreaded swim suit. One because I want my kids to remember the fun we had not how mom would never take us, and two..three words...LANDS END SWIMSUIT. They are bomb and when it says it covers everything it COVERS everthing!

angie said...

I'm SO with you on this one. NO ONE pays attention to the moms at the pool........regardless of size. I don't do bikini's either. Never have. But I do take my kids to the pool ALL. the. Time. :)

antoinettemariew@blogspot.com said...

first, the 2nd pic is priceless! i hate that too! we had a family picnic once and my cousin wouldn't go in the pool cause she didn't want to put a suit on...at her own mom's house. like i told her, i could be 500 pds. and NOTHING would keep me out of the water, i love it too much....and greatly, so does my boy and i'd do it for him anyway even if i didn't. good post girl! blessings...

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

You are so right--I never let my extra pounds keep me out of the pool or the ocean.

Mrs. S said...

Ok, so only about 1% of people in bikinis should wear them. lol That's the truth, I tell ya. Me in a bikini, I shudder to think. But I'm ok with that - there are other swim suits (and if not, there are t-shirts & shorts). I can't help the stretch marks and I'm proud of them, but I wouldn't show those off to anyone but my husband!

But none of that has ever hindered me from taking my kid to the pool. He LOVES the water; what kind of mom would I be to take that from him? Now, financially we can't go to the pool ALL the time, but sometimes, we can swing by and have some fun.

My kid's so cute, no one's looking at me...well, ok, I have a giant pregnant belly so maybe they do look at me, but I thought I was glowing? lol


OH And thank you so much for stopping by my blog. I actually never really crossed paths with the boy again nor before then. He was just way older than me or my sister so we had no reason to be around one another. :) I hope his mommy didn't even find out though; it was bad enough the kids knew.

Mental P Mama said...

Amen! I love that last pic;)

Jessica said...

I thought you were going in a different direction with this, but I agree with what you said too.

I can't stand the mothers who are already at the pool but are too worried about their tan lines, fat (that they don't have), and boobs that they can't make sure their children aren't drowning. I just went to a party where there were mothers like that ALL over and it drove me nuts!

Chrissy said...

Love it and oh so true!

Gary Rith Pottery Blog said...

oh goodness, sumo ballerina!

Kristin said...

I totally agree with all you said today! While I don't like bathing suits for my self I love taking my little one swimming. He loves it and I love seeing him happy, and he doesn't care if I looked like a beached whale, and he is what counts am I right?

Live.Love.Eat said...

While I work hard to maintain my weight since I cook so much I am with you, I would never keep my son from fun just because of my own vanity. I did bikinis up to a few years ago but I have accepted now that I don't have a tummy for it & I am alright with that. Tankinis rock! And so does hanging out with the kids by the pool & beach! So, what does your birth mark look like? I bet it's kinda cool, no?

Darlene said...

I'm not sure that I know any mom's like that. We have our own huge above ground pool but also going to our small water park is loads of fun! Yes, I do wish I was smaller and looked better in a bathing suit but who cares we are there to have FUN, and we do!!!!!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

At 52 I am proud to say I can still do a cannon ball in the pool with my Little T! I havent put on a bikini in 30 years. I can be nice and spare people at times! I wouldnt miss a day at the pool with my kid no matter how round I get!

Erin said...

I don't know any moms like that yet, I think all my friends, we all go with food, sit and complain about how big we are, how we need to go on a diet all while stuffing our faces and watching the kids! =)

American in Norway said...

RIght there with ya! Of course I would like to lose weight, but I agree my kids shouldn't suffer because of MY body issues! Great post!

Lilac_moon17 said...

I am a bit obsessed with my weight. I know I shouldn't be but it is a hard thing to get over. I think it is such a habit that I will weigh myself every morning even if I was 110.

PS You have a beautiful Family!!!

septembermom said...

Great advice! It's so true that we put way too much emphasis on what our bodies "should" look like. I would hate to keep my kids away from the pool just because of my hangups. Love the photos.

kisatrtle said...

I loved your post. I am not one of those moms. I plan on being at the pool alot this summer!

Maggie May said...

Well I wish someone had taken ME to a pool when I was young because I am now getting on for seventy and I cannot swim!
I wouldn't look too good in a bikini but would it really matter! I would love to go for a dip if only I could swim.

Word ver *CHORTS*!

Two Pretty Little Skirts said...

omg I love this post!

Thanks for stoppin by my site and the comment!
followin ya
Hope you have a great day!


Dawn

Melinda said...

I take the boys to the pool but I do worry constantly about how I look in a bathing suit. Just the thought makes me cringe. I hope this doesn't mean we can't be friends : )

jennykate77 said...

Thanks a lot! You just called me a creapazoid...I might be one of those crazy mothers who cringed when the city water park opened last weekend. I'm sorry, I have issues. You already know that. My therapist is on speed dial. I usually have to talk to him regarding twilight, starbucks addictions, late night facebook/farm town marathons, but now I probably need to add not going to the public swimming pool because I look like a BEACHED WHALE. I fear a group would organize in efforts to put me back in the water. Oh, and you already now about my pigmentation deficiancy. I'm totally fine with taking Isaiah to a private place to swim, just not in front of every Tom, Dick, and Harry (or Jane, Joan, and Brandi - an old friend...the phobia is not gender specific).

That pic is hilarious.

He And Me + 3 said...

Yeah...I don't have that bikini body anymore. but I will still take my kids to the pool. You are so funny. i will just put on my long skirt bathings suit. Kidding of course.

Christy said...

That was great! And your site is beautiful!

mamamia said...

lol, i love the man's t shirt! I am not a mom like that. . . unless my in laws are around.

Liz said...

Well, I do obsess a little because my body is changing. But it's not to the point that I won't go out and have fun. As far as Mom's go... I don't really know too many but the ones that I do know aren't self concious. That's sad that there are actually people out there that won't let there hair down because of their self image. Life's too short!

ashley said...

being self-conscious is defenitely a hard thing to get over at a pool. i agree that a cute cover up is the way to go! :)

sarah said...

Thank you for your lovely comment at my weblog. Yours is so beautiful!

I am a mom like that ... at least, I don't go swimming with my child, for several reasons. But I certainly take her to the pool, and sit at the edge encouraging her (or acting cool and as if I'm not watching her, these days, as she is too old to be seen with her mama!) Everyone needs to find their right comfort level, but it's such a shame if their children have to miss out.

Jenny said...

I love this and the pictures are great.

Melissa said...

LOVE IT!! Thanks for stopping by so I could meet your blog! I love how you incorporated such a perfect real world example in your writing. Kids needs pools, and kids don't care what you look like in your bathing suit.

Saundra@ItalianMamaGoneCrazy said...

Oh my Gosh... the pictures.. hilarious!!!

I agree... take the kids to the pool...

Great one!

Los said...

I have a big ol' birthmark right below my left butt cheek ... my mom made me wear speedos to the pool as a kid ... it looked like I crapped myself ... one of the many reasons I don't wear speedos now.

Jolene said...

The picture at the end made me laugh. I don't think I know any moms like that. That would be sad for kids to miss out on something so simple (and fun) like going swimming all because of their mom's insecurities.

Jen said...

this is a great post. I totally agree. I can't stand skinny people complaining about their weight. To me is about being happy and healthy.

Five Moms & A Blog said...

Hey Rebekah! OMGoosh!!!! Love the pics. And yeah, some people just need to get over themselves.

Five Moms & A Blog said...

Good Grief....I forgot to put my name again.

TTYL,
Miti

Scary Mommy said...

I LOVE this post!!! I am trying to just come to terms with what I've got rather than lusting after other women. It's tough, but I'm getting there. I'm not wasting another summer feeling sorry for myself!

Soliloquy said...

I think tomorrow will be our first day at the pool.

My tummy isn't what I'd like it to be, but at least my ahem "top" is finally proportionate.

Takin' me and my boob job to the pool - and goin' to rock the two piece, whether I deserve to or not, KNOWING I am going to offend some of my more conservative neighbors.... (Vainglory and the Haskells). HA!

That's not even to mention the new tattoo!

Oh well. Maybe they won't talk to me.

One can hope.

Sheila said...

This was a great post. Cant wait to get to the pool.

theArthurClan said...

That last photo was the funniest thing ever!

This body will not be seeing a bikini EVER (giving birth to four kids will do that to you!) but I definitely will wear a suit to go to the lake with my kids. We live there all summer long!

You are so right...NO ONE CARES. Just get out there and have fun with the kiddos - it's much more important. :)

Jenny @ Another Jennifer Speaks said...

great poem :) i love it. very inspirational.

Brandi said...

I think it's such a shame too!! I will go to the beach or pool any day - any time!

shortmama said...

I just want a big gust of wind to come and carry off women like that!!! Seriously, get over it, get over yourself and while your at it...eat some chocolate hehehehe

Angela said...

I am NOT a mom like that! I do not look good in a bathing suit (far from it, actually), but that does not stop me from throwing on some shorts and a tank top so my kid can go swimming. Who cares about me? Thanks for posting this. :)

LazyCrazyMama said...

Great post! I so agree!!

Tiffany Walensky said...

Great post, I love it!

Michelle said...

That is just wrong! lol

Keri said...

I agree. More people need to stop thinking so much about themselves and start thinking about their kids.

jlo said...

Of course, I never feel comfortable in a bathing suit, but I wear one all summer long because my kids love the beach and the pool. I try and remind myself that it is what it is...if they don't like it...too bad!!

Pumpkin Delight said...

Good thing I don't have kids, because I would so be that mom who didn't take them to the pool because I didn't want to wear a bathing suit...but I probably would take them and just wear pants. :)

Pineapple Princess said...

Oh my gosh! I adore your sense of humor!